2006-10-09 04:19:39 · 14 answers · asked by Dori 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I did it.....22 years ago. She is now in the top ten of her college and bright and beautiful and my best friend. This is what I did....we were a team...and teams need leaders. I was not her friend during a lot of it but I was a kind and loving guidance that gave her confidence and ideas on how to navigate through life. We laffed a lot and it was easy for me to take off the mom hat and be a kid with her and play dollies...I had a boy later and it was fun to be a tom boy with them. Be bigger than life, laugh a lot but make sure you set up a routine to make the child feel grounded. Make time for fun but don't let the child think that you are anything but the parent who loves them...they need that more than you could know.
2006-10-09 04:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by igot_terminal_uniqueness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dori, You raise your baby with all the love you can give it. You can go to your local park or better yet contact some single parent classes and you will be amazed on what they can help with. Hey you never know you just may make some real true friends, but most important you will have some support. Keep saying prayers, if the Lord did not think you were ready for this baby then you would not have it. Keep your head up, things will get better. Do not stress over this, your child will pick it up and will make you stress because he/she is crying for no apparent reason.
Good luck!!!
2006-10-09 11:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by huntier24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 3000 miles away from my family. I have found that the new friends I've made at my place of worship are a fantastic resourse and a great substitue "family." If you don't already have a place, ask neighbors or coworkers where they go and try a few places to find one that feels right for you. Most people are REALLY happy to bring a new person to their place of worship. I know I would be!
2006-10-09 11:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by addicted2sim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i would hope that you have two parents for this child. My husband and I had NO family or friends for 23 years. We lived 3,000 miles away and did everything and went everywhere with our children. We did go home every 6 months to visit but I can tell you from experience it can be done.
2006-10-09 11:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say...are your parents dead, not around? Are you married? It is very difficult. I live in Kansas and my family lives in Ohio, and my mother died before I got pregnant.
I am married, and my husband is fantastic. If it wasn't for him, I would definitely move back to Ohio.
I was lucky enough to find a great babysitter. She isn't licensed or registered for daycare, but she is like a grandma, and I feel she is just like family to me.
Reach out to other people that you can trust. Get involved in parenting groups. Go to some parenting classes..you can meet people that way. Talk to people, get references for babysitters/daycare centers. Friends can be even better than family sometimes!!! Just look for friends that don't create more problems in your life, because now you have to protect that little life.
You have to reach out to find these people. Posting this question was a great start!
2006-10-09 11:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I live about two hours away from our families. It would be very difficult if we didn't have one another to 'trade off' sometimes. We have very good childcare folks - but it is costly at times. We've been lucky to find a great preschool and a part time babysitter that help me with childcare when I need it for my job. But the part that helps the most is that I mainly work from home and have my youngest here with me most of the week. It's do-able, but definitely harder when you don't have built-in helpers.
2006-10-09 11:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to join some support groups for parents, also, get out and make friends, you could really use an extended family for you and your child.
2006-10-09 11:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsmile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you become self reliant. i did this. i was married but...it is hard to have kids and no one to help. my husband was never home. i did everything. you have to adjust. my daughter actually attende the gyno with me, she nearly witnessed the birth of her brother, and she and i have a very special bond. we are friends on some levels. because we were alone so much, i found creative ways to occupy her so i could get some me time. one of those ways has turned into a friday night institution in our house. good luck. if you want ot im me or email me and blow off steam feel free. i've been there.
2006-10-11 11:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make friends. Join parent groups. Go to story hour at your library.Be strong for your child.
2006-10-09 11:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going to the library and get some books about how to raise children...
2006-10-09 11:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋