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Question

How do you break a crush?
Should you still break a crush if you don't know how the other person feels and you think maybe he feels the same way, should you just give up hope?
Why are people slaves to their crushes?
What if I asked him out and he said no? Then I'd still have to see him in my lessons then I wouldn't be able to concentrate. But I can't concentrate now.
Should I just transfer the crush?

Answer 1

Good idea...clear your mind.

Answer 2

I am afraid that crushes are beyond our control- a lot like love really- however, 'crushes' fade eventually and then another one replaces the last! The real term for such an emotion is infatuation. Someone who has a feeling of love or like it can only fall in two cateogries: Infatuation and Love.

(THE ABOVE IS MY COMMENTS, OPINION FROM OWN EXPERIENCE OR WHAT I HAVE WITNESSED!!)

Here is a list of how you feel if it is love and if it is infatuation! If it turns out to be infatuation, I would NOT tell the recipient!! However, if it turns out to be love, get to know the person properly to make sure and not going off their appearance or figure! (If you "love" them because of their looks, then it is DEFINETLY infatuation!) Try to TACTFULLY find out if they feel the same way about you, don't ask direct questions like: "Do you fancy me?" or "Do you love me/like me?" Becuase they would never admit anything and so you would be wasting your time! But most importantly, if you are to young to marry them anyway, just leave it! There would be no point taking it any further, as even if the person DOES feel the same way about you, you would then be building up frustration as you wait for the time when you can marry and that building or frustration could turn into anger, which in turn could turn into violence, etc!!

(NOTE: THE FOLLOWING WILL ONLY TELL YOU WHICH YOU ARE EXPERIENCING IF YOU ARE HONEST TO YOURSELF!!!)

If it is... INFATUATION

1. Is selfish,restrictive. One thinks, 'What does this do for me?'

2. Romance starts fast, perhaps taking hours or days

3. You are deeply impressed or interested in the other's PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. ('He has such dreamy eyes'. She's got a great figure.')

4. A destructive, disorganising effect

5. Is unrealistic. The other person seems perfect. You ignore any nagging doubts about serious personality flaws

6. Arguments are frequent. Nothing really gets settled. Many are "settled" with a kiss

7. The emphasis is on taking or getting, especially in satisfying sexual urges

If it is... LOVE

1. An UNSELFISH caring about the interests of the other

2. Romance often starts SLOWLY, perhaps taking months or years

3. You are attracted by the other person's TOTAL personality.

4. The effect on you is that it makes you a better person

5. You view the other realistically, seeing his or her faults, yet loving that one anyway

6. You have disagreements, but you find that you can talk them out and settle them

7. You want to give and share with the other person.

I hope this has helped! And if you don't guess from the source information, I myself am one of Jehovah's Witnesses, where I got this information!

Answer 3

Ok I speak with some experience here because I am thinking back to my school days when there was this girl I LOVED, but I could never get the courage to tell her. Then one day I did and, although she said no, I felt SO much better for having told her.

So, the best thing to do without doubt is to let the person know. But do it discretely; like when the two of you happen to be alone or something.

Answer 4

I strongly believe that there is a thing called fate, If you are meant to be with someone than you will, if you are not then it wont happen,
You could be passing up great chances on meeting the right one for you all the time that you have this crush.
Go out there and have fun and what is meant to be will be

Answer 5

Wow, lots of questions there! Maybe you should let this person know that you have a crush on them and see how they feel about it? Good luck ;-)

Answer 6

you cant just switch your feelings off. ask him out face to face and not through a friend. if he says no whats the problem at least you had the balls to ask him. if he does say no hopefully he will let you down nicely but if he embarasses you some how then you know he's not worth it any way. hope it all works out.

Answer 7

1st question- u jus get over them by time
2nd question- no u shouldn't u should wait and see
3rd question- no don't give up hope
4th question- they got issues
5th question- girls don't ask guys out or shouldn't n e ways
6th question- if ur over the other 1 yah i jus have more than 1 that way if u get rejected then u got the others to fall back on

Answer 8

I could, but I think I might upset you and I get the impression that you're young enough that it would make me something of a bully. So I'll just say this, if he's your age, you're in. You are female and have a pulse. Unless he's gay.

Answer 9

hon, i'm in the same boat. write him a note or email and ask him flat out. If he says no, it will be WAY easier to get over him and if he says yes...there ya go! Good luck!

Answer 10

just ask him
and if he says no it will help you move on
if he does say no it's a good idea to make sure he thinks your over him
and if he says yes then it's cool

so if you ask you dont loose out too much

Answer 11

Just let your crush know how you feel.

But I'm not familiar with the terms "break your crush" (I'm assuming it means let him know) and I'm not familar with "transfer the crush"...