WHAT TO Do!!?

Question

well i was watching mtv's true life last night. and it was about jealuse girlfriends. and i kinda started worrying that im a jealus girlfriend. and i dont want to turn out like those people on there. i mean i do get a little jealus when my boyfriend talks to like ex's and other girls except for a few. but i mean i let him do it i dont get made or anything. I do get jealus alot. but i never really let it out. i let him do his own thing. i just think im still a little insacure with myself. i fell like hes goin to leave me for someone better. but he always tells me in the best and he never wants to leave. is this something normal or am i to jealuse like those girls on the tv. and if so how can i fix this?!??

god people im sorry i spelt JEALOUS wrong so shot me! and omg i watch mtv so do alot of people. there are some many d*mn "haters" here. i just want advice not people sayin stuff about me cuz i watch mtv and cant spell and for the record im 21! almost 22.

Answer 1

i think that it is normal... I worry about my boyfriend and his ex's... But i know that if he wanted to be with them, he never would have asked me out. You have every right to be a little concerned. But, just dont let it get out of hand. You want to be protective, and not possesive. Hope the best for you...

Answer 2

I wouldnt worry bout it too much. U kno they say jealousy is a females trait. I tend to be jealous towards my man and towards the same people too( ex's baby mommas). But dont let it get in the way, I am insecure and my man gave me a reason 2 though, when we first got together he cheated. But he knows he made a huge mistake and we have worked through of it and we struggle to make our bond stronger. But u have to tell urself that he's not gonna find someone like u and realize that the grass aint greener on the other side. If he chooses to move on, u will still love him but he's never gonna find one like u and be confident in the love u have. I kno its hard and its definitely not an overnight thing. But communication is important when there is a lack of trust or insecurity present. So keep ur head up and try thats all u can do is try. And the chicks on MTV be extremed so just hang in there and stick it out!

Answer 3

honey if you aren't old enough to spell jealous, then you really probably aren't old enough to BE jealous!! But if you are the jealous type, get a new guy, if your gut instinct tells you something is wrong, then there probably is, even if it is with you! If a relationship is not secure then you will feel jealous, if it is secure and you trust your man, you will feel like he can do whatever he wants because of the trust. Jealousy is only a trust issue, and if you are young forget about it, don't live your life like that, live it up, and concentrate more on what you want out of life, rather than what some stupid boy MIGHT do to hurt your feelings!! LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO AND REALIZE THAT MEN GET IN THE WAY OF YOUR DREAMS IF YOU LET THEM. SLOW DOWN TAKE IT EASY AND MAKE ACCOMPLISHMENTS THAT DON'T REVOLVE AROUND A MAN, YOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE TO FALL IN LOVE....DON'T RUSH IT!

Answer 4

I have two suggestions;

1. Use the check spelling feature before submitting your question. (holy $hit, did you spell jealuse instead of jealous?)

2. Leave your house! If you use MTV as the benchmark for analyzing life's tough decisions, chances are that you are mentally slow and don't have much contact with the outside world, nor do your parents.

I don't think your parents should be allowed to procreate, they should be arrested!

Answer 5

I think you need to find inner peace and realize that guys are not everything. In the mean time start looking for other things to occupy your time. Take up a course at the community college. If he sees he's not the main focus, then you won't be pressuring him away. He will also quit trying to make you jealous and start pursuing you. Men like sports and hunting, or the sport of it. The idea of the thrill of catching something is an all time high for men. So give him something to catch. Make it worth his while!!! Start making him jealous. Believe me, he will be around for a long time if you keep doing this every so often.

Answer 6

I think feeling jealous is a normal thing. It is OK to feel this way as long as you are not acting silly and crazy. Let your bf know how you feel and see if he backs off for a while. He should be flattered that you feel this way. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

chick it's normal i feel the same way bout mines the best thing 2 do is have mutual friends and do things that destract him from his. and don't b insecure if he's with u he must like u, and if he does leave im sure she wont be as sweet or caring as u. ur normal!!!!

Answer 8

everyone has that jealousy inside them , you love him so much thats why your scared he'll leave you. but giving him that trust gives him that reason to love you just as much. he goes home to you and no one else. if he's givin you no reason to be jealous then do'nt let it get the best of you. sometimes being too jealous will rip your relationship apart.

best of luck

Answer 9

its totally normal girls are jealous of other girls just what i dont understand is usually the girls that dont have a guy are usually jealous of the girls who do. u should be happy that u have a bf. And the girls that are hanging out with ur bf are trying to make u jealous so u will break up with ur bf so they can have him. so dont let them get to u. just ignore them they are trying to make ur guy spend time with them so u think hes cheating on u and so u will break up with him and that happened to one of my best friends and she cried for weeks because she thought her bf was a player so she broke up with him and she still to this day is mad at herself because she broke up with him. but just believe me dont think hes gonna break up with u. and ur not insecure ur just a girl. thats wat happens to every single girl. please believe me and take the advise.

Answer 10

its ohhkay to be a little jealous.
and in your situation its fine.
i saw that show last night as well.
THOSE girls werent over jealous.
there bfs went out and partied.
and cheated on them before.
its ohhkay to worry about your boyfriend leaving you for another girl.
but listen to him when he says he wont.
Your problem is normal.
So dont worry about it.