everytime my sis goes out w/ her bf..i have to go along because otherwise they are not allowed out, and they are always all over each other.and i feel like a 3rd wheel..how can i tell my sis that i dont wanna go out w/o hurting her feelings plus not have her mad at me (they can only go out if im there)??help
2006-10-09 03:23:58 · 16 answers · asked by *~Angel_Eyes~* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like parents don't trust sister.....sounds like you got stuck.
Do have conversation with sister....tell her you don't want to go on dates with her....(Honey, she doesn't want you there either.).....Come up with a plan to earn parents trust for sister.....
Speak respectfully when you speak with family members. Respond to what they say. Do not react. Respond. Calmly and respectfully. Take a deep breath if conversation gets stressful, think about what you want to say, and respond. Respectfully. This teaches the other person respect.
Sister needs to get on point. She needs to be where she says she's going to be, be home when she says she's going to be home, keep up with schoolwork, and maintain her living environment herself. This teaches parents that she can make a responsible decision. They need to be able to trust that she will make right decisions for their child. Even if that child is her. Scare the parent, gain the chaperone.
Sister needs to make steps to do responsible things in her romantic relationships. Has she addressed the issue of birth control if they are planning to go there? Is this boy someone she should be having a relationship with? Does he know how to make a responsible decision? Does he treat her with respect? Parents see all of this.
Unfortunately, little one, things are falling on you. You have shown incredible character through all the responsibilities that fall on you. God bless you for loving these people enough to make such an effort. Everything will be ok. You guys stick together. God bless and keep you all.
2006-10-09 03:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just some suggestions :Take a couple of your own friends along. Make it more like a group date. Talk to your sister about how you feel uncomfortable and also talk to her about how often they want to go out. Maybe they can go out a little less often so you are not always put on the spot. If you took some other frinds along you would have the opportunity to have some fun during this time also instead of just being a third wheel or a babysitter.
2006-10-09 10:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by crazartgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your ages, but you seem young. It's really rude of them to be making out in front of you, and if they are going to be all over each other when you are there, then there's really no point in you being the chaperone. I would just tell your sister that it makes you uncomfortable and ask her to tone it down some. If it's really bad, then just refuse to go a time or two then maybe they'll have a little respect for you. As far as hurting her feelings, her feelings will be hurt. If you just explain to her that you don't want to hurt her feelings that's all you can do. Either she's going to be mad at you, or your going to be mad at her.
2006-10-09 10:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with your parents and sister, that is not fair for you to be thier chaperone, you have your own activities that you would like to do on a weekend. And that it is not fair to put you in that situation. If they cannot go out without you, maybe they could stay at one of thier houses and be chaperoned by adults. If they still do not understand and ask you to be thier third wheel, make plans to be unavailable without being rude. But you need to talk to your parents, I am assuming this is thier rule, and it is unfair to you.
2006-10-09 10:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are tired of being the third party. or just take a date with you so your not having to be alone with them two all over each other if you dont have a date take a friend and then go your seperate ways untill your ready to meet up to leave.
2006-10-09 10:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by mstycain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell whoever is making you go with them that you don't want to and if they continue to insist tell them that it doesn't matter if your with them and you are tired of baby sitting and watching them swap spit and that if they go back to your sis with any slack or tell her you went to them in confidence you may not do it next time ...also your sister is being very disrespectful to you ........in the long run you and you re sister will have to talk and she will get upset but that will pass.....
2006-10-09 10:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by C1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell her. i understand not wanting to be a third wheel, so talk to your sis, and let her know that you feel this way, and that you want her to be happy, so she should have the same respect, for you. Good Luck
2006-10-09 10:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your sister? That is the main question - if she is younger you may need to just REFUSE to go with them. If she is older you need to explain to her why you feel uncomfortable going out with them & tell them if things continue like they are now that you will not go anymore. Then it's her choice!
2006-10-09 10:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look better than your Sis and act better than your Sis and steal her Bow:)
2006-10-09 10:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you can do anything about it i have a brother that has to come with me all the time too and he loves it cuz he invites his friends or his girl so maybe you should invite someone......... good luck
2006-10-09 10:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by *********** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋