2006-10-09 03:23:07 · 11 answers · asked by Dreamer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Realize the difference between Love & Infactuation:
There are some feelings we have when infatuated that we don’t have when we’re feeling love. Some of the “symptoms” of infatuation are; feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust, feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealously.
When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter.
Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? Hardly. So why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological.
When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.
The body can build up tolerances to these chemicals so it takes more of the substance to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship may be craving the intoxicating effects of these substances and may be “infatuation junkies”.
When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends.
2006-10-09 03:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple
just remind yourself that it is only a crush and there is no way that it will affect you at any deep level
Know this that crush does not last very long and it is entirely based on a very simple thing that somehow managed to impressed/get you. Crush are usually formed out of a emotional moment that you associate with some thing pleasent that you felt at a point in your life.
Start to imagine the person under a different light. See the flaws they have and how you two would not last if you entered a relationship...
hope this helps
2006-10-09 10:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Zed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd think I'd be an expert at this by now, seeing as how I've had an insane amount of failed hard crushes.
Anyways, you could try writing up a pros and cons list for the guy, but try to focus on the cons. Under "pros," write things about the crush that you can find in other guys...like "nice hair," "nice eyes," "snappy dresser." Then under "cons," write everything you can think of, and make the list longer than the pros. Hopefully you'll get a reality check that way.
2006-10-09 10:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should occupy yourself with a few activities, see a few movies with friends. Go on a couple dates with different people, this should help you see good qualities in each of them, while helping you forget the crush.
Doing all of these things should help break the spell of your crush, while making sure you don't sit home pining away.
2006-10-09 10:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by cookiemnster73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i've had sooo many crushes, some have been totally outrageous... if the person you fancy is not availabe or not interested then you have to accept it and don't let it rule your life. there is no harm in having a crush but the best is someone wanting you just as much.. hope it works out
2006-10-09 10:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry them hahaha.
Seriously.......you can't force it, if you're smitten then you'll be stuck with that sensation until you a) discover he's nowhere near as nice as you thought he was, b) you find another object for your affections c) refuse to let yourself see him until it goes away.
Or just ask him out.
Hey, if its an unobtainable celebrity, just cuddle your pillow at night and remember just how unobtainable they really are......
2006-10-09 10:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by haushinka29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is bad it hurts but just be calm try to get engrossed in different thing s try stop thinking abt him(i knw thats impossible but )give it a shot it will take time but will work goodluck
2006-10-09 10:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by erumtheangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the person out.
2006-10-09 10:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, it stays with you forever gnawing at your heart, that's why friends reunited was invented.
2006-10-09 10:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO THE CLUB AND HAVE A GOOD TIME
2006-10-09 10:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by ford_mud_runner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋