i have told them it really hurts me when they are constently bringing me down and praising him. its very rare that i have one good word said to me. every day is a living hell. i want to move out and live with my boyfriend who is the only one who seems to love me. but the only problem is i dont have my licence or a job. should i start working towards getting them both so me and my boyfriend can move out?
2006-10-09 03:21:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am 17 years old and my brother is 8. i think the reason he gets so much more praise than i do is because...i am adopted. my step mom and my biological dad seem to really hate me and it just kills me inside.
2006-10-09 03:37:57 · update #1
Don't get a job/move out unless your of age. As far as the whole "praising your brother" thing, my dad and stepmom praise my my half brother all the time. They say things like, "Oh, he's such a good and fast runner, he excels in all sports, he's so smart and such an awesome actor!" He's only 6 going on 7 for God's sake. They never say anything like that about me. The only thing my dad tells me is not to gain any weight! "I don't want you getting fat," he'll tell me. It's really hard to want to go there and visit them every other weekend like I do. So, believe me, I know exactly what you're going through.
2006-10-09 03:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by honeybfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend the one who told you that he's the only one who loves you? One of the first signs of an abusive relationship is the abuser isolates you from your friends and family. That happened to a friend of mine. You should work toward getting your licence and a job. Are you a minor? You need to finish your education. Don't just move in with your boyfriend to get out of a bad home situation. Are there other family members you could stay with.
2006-10-09 03:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya, eventually when you're ready you might want to move out. For now, try to ignore you parent's comments and praise to your brother. You can't really change your parents. So just let it go... It's great you tried to speak to them and you can try again but don't make it a huge issue... if your life is a living hell because of your parents then forget them... save money and get out when you are old enough... and ready... eventually you'll be happy. Hopefully, on their own, your parents will realize the mistakes they have made. Good luck!
2006-10-09 03:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tania 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down with your parents and really talked to them about this maybe something is really bothering them about the path that your taking in life. I don't getting upset or in a house full of people I mean just you a them. My mom and I did not get a long at all when I was growing up I'm now 25 an we get along fine. I would first try talking to them. I have three daughters of my own and I know that if any of them did have a job and license and they even thought about moving their boyfriend in so me and their father could take care of him to it would be a cold day in h*ll and then she would complain about it to me we wouldn't get along very well that's my baby.
2006-10-09 03:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not write how old is your brother, or why are the reasons your parents act like that, I believe insteand or running away to nowhere, because you and your boyfriend do not have anything, it is better to talk with your parents and try to solve it,probably you are doing thins that they do not like, if this is the case offert to chage your behavior, but if you can not do that or the situation of your parents do not change, stay there until you finish studying and find a job, when yiou can live by yourself, somebody said: THERE IS NO REAL INDEPENDENCE IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ECONOMIC INDEPENDENCE" TAKE IT BY LIBERTY OR FREEDOM, be patient, think a little, switch roles, what can you do if you were your parents:? maybe that help you to understand
2006-10-09 03:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your short term solution don't create Long term problems.
Moving out and not correcting your relationship with your parents will cause greater problems in the future. Try to look at things from your parents point of view so you can understand what they are going thru dealing with you.
Your boyfriend is not the answer to your problems. No one says life is easy, and that's what makes the reward so great.
Please don't run from your problems face them and conquer them.
2006-10-09 03:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope cause who's to say living with him is going to be peaches and cream. Although everything may seem sweet and dandy when you move in together all that changes. So don't rush out of one hell into another.
2006-10-09 03:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
moving out is not a good idea...
you know you're going the spend the rest of you're life
wondering why??
parents sometimes favor other relatives because that want you to see that the way they want you to act..simple...
not because they don't love you,sweetheart..
the trick is ask you're parent what is it that they really hope
for you and you're job is to listen...if you are old enough to have a boyfriend you are old enough to listen and realize that they do things in you're best interest,parents only stop you from doing
what you thinkis o.k because it's not. respect you're parents and you will see a big difference..don't fight it ,,it makes it worst
good luck sweetheart
isabelle
2006-10-09 03:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have survived under your parents for this long... wait until you finish highschool to move out. Sorry you're going through all the crap at home... Just think of it as a shelter and free food... other than that... BELIEVE IN YOURSELF... No one can help you believe in yourself... If you believe in yourself you will succeed!
Good luck.
2006-10-09 03:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little selfish to me. It's sad that your parents are treating you this way, but maybe you're part of the problem. Think about how you come across to them as well. What can you change that would improve things with your parents?
2006-10-09 03:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋