it seems like something's in the air but all of my single friends, myself included, are feeling exceptionally lonely. we are all attractive girls. we are fun, have good jobs, are super down to earth. what's the deal? we go out to bars and clubs and meet people. we meet people at bbq's and football games. but still in the midst of it all feel lonely. is anyone else feeling like that? it's the weirdest thing ever to me.
2006-10-09 03:05:43 · 7 answers · asked by missdesilulu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can tell you why,
but many will either just laugh or roll there eyes.
its up to you what you do with this advise,
but im giving you my advice from my experience,
i hope it helps:-)
every single woman wether they admit it or not, feels lonely. some dive into there work to avoid it, some sleep around to be affectionately fulfilled, others deny it to the point they believe they arent lonely. but deep down, every woman is. going to bars and clubs and meeting new people and all that, its a way to try to fill the gap, the void in your heart. its a way of having fun, having "a life". being fulfilled, but it never does fill. Even when your with a partner. when you have a boyfriend, have you ever noticed, that for a while, even for ages, you feel like that void is finally filled, but then every now and again, sometimes frequently, that loneliness is still there, and you dont know why. u are happy with your man, and you have friends and a good social life, and you wonder "why am i still feeling this way?" we blame it on hormones and being female emotional etc. but that isnt the problem.
people have there opinions and views on what fills that void. heres mine....
there is a hole in everyones heart. and trying to fill it with sex, partying, alcohol, shopping, romance novels/movies, gossip, talking too much (lol) etc etc, is like trying to fill a circle shaped hole, with a triangle. Because the hole in your heart is God-shaped. what is missing is Jesus. God created you, and do you know why? the purpose was to have Relationship. .... with HIM. thats why we crave relationships so bad. our lives revolve around the people in it. we want good friends, good men, good relationship. we were created for it. and the reason there is still a hole even when relationships are good, is because u still dont have a relationship with the Lord. He is just waiting to fill that void, waiting to be the one to make you whole, waiting to be with you and help you out with all your other relationships, and to help you find your soul mate. Jesus can end your loneliness in a second. Years of heartache and sorrow can end in one day. God is the answer. He was for me, He is for you. God wants to tell you tonight, and everyone reading this, that He feels your pain, He knows why your lonely, and He wants to fulfill you. He wants you to know him.
:-)
if you'd like to talk about it, email me:
ima.musical.bubble@gmail.com
2006-10-09 03:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i'm feeling the guys a little. learning from my mistakes if u and urs find some1 now it maybe a short term happiness. God has good things planned for those who wait. so pace urselves and make urselves happy. enjoy the u time. listen to music, figure out how u can help family or others with small things, and atleast u don't have to think about where the other person is or r they ok, or how to make it work. be u and love u, get to know what u want from a realationship and what u can contribute when it's time. may soon i will be back alone. but remember u r never alone and i read that from the bible. Be Blessed. Enjoy urself.
2006-10-09 03:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I feel the exact same way. But, I think that he is right around the corner and that we have to keep focusing on ourselves first. They always come when you're not looking for them. So, continue to go out and have fun. That's what I had to do. My best friend is getting married and he's just 21 and I feel nothing but happiness for him. But, for now I can just have fun and enjoy the single life for now. Mama always said, he's out there looking for you, so stop looking. I hopes this help and good luck to ya!
2006-10-09 03:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your lonliness doesn't get satisfied by spending time with others, but how much of yourself you want to invest in someone else. If you put your heart into another, believe me, you won't be lonely. It sounds like you want to keep partying and expect others to keep you from feeling lonely. It doesn't work that way.
2006-10-09 03:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you sense. i'm interpreting finished time and dealing section time. I very infrequently have loose time i think fairly lonely a number of the time too. i'm basically searching ahead to the easter vacation journeys when I can bypass out with my acquaintances and probably meet someone.
2016-10-16 04:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am 21 and i feel the same thing!!!in the summer i used to go at clubs,have fun.guys came and flirted with me.i always refused their invitations ..i felt sad in september when my girlfriend when back for studies.coz i didnt go any more out...i stay alone..in september i was feeling very lonely.i think it has to do with ego.sometimes we are such selfish that we cant admit that we want love and a partner!!i talk with a guy in messenger since may.i decided to go and meet him coz i like his character..i think am fallin in love with him!!but i like my single life!!!i dont know what to do!!!
if u like a guy dont be shy tell him what u feel..or enjoy the singles life!!
2006-10-09 03:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a mid 20's guy but yes i feel lonely. it sounds like your friends feel like me, just missing out on that one special relationship. you can have good friends and family but still want that special someone to be close to and develop a relationship with. plus i think our society is very lonely and isolated these days.
2006-10-09 03:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by painfullyaverage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋