How can I help my husband break the news to his buddies. THey are always calling to come over and have a few beers. Play golf? etc....he has been sober for 1 week. How do you tell your friends so they will stop encouraging this behavior to stop talking about having a cold one?
2006-10-09 02:38:24 · 9 answers · asked by 47124785262 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say no
2006-10-09 02:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by good_shooter2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the problem is your dealing with a man. Mens lifes circle around sex, farting, screaming at the tv, potato chips and pizza, and football and beer!
They are gonna keep doing it. Friends don't like to lose thier drinking buddies. So he is going to have to tough them out! After a while they will accept it and lighten up on him!
2006-10-09 09:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him tell them the truth, that he is not drinking any more. If they can't accept that he needs to find new friends. If he is serious about staying sober have him find a local AA meeting. They often have alanon meetings at the same place - it is a support group for family and friends. Good luck.
2006-10-09 09:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and straight with them. If they are true friends, they wil understand and not ask to drink with him, but encourage him to not drink. Maybe you call the friends and tell them whats going on. Tell them to keep coming over, but bring a case of Coke instead of beer.
2006-10-09 09:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that 'your husband's friends' are the cause of your husband's behavior?
we mostly hearing more negative about beers and alcohol than positive one, which means it doesn't give us 100% profits if we have it regularly.
*Very nice Cristian people were so nice to me and my son, they tried to get me closer to them, they did a lot of favors, they do, speak, act so good toward me....can you imagine how hard for me to say 'NO' to them.....that's for the nice things and nice people.*But I eventually said to them, that I decided not to atten the church anymore...
There are lots of news, campaign running on TV, persuade, knowledge people how bad alcohol is....
There are so many excuses that your husband can use with his friends.....if he doesn't really want to have that behavior!
But I am afraid that he might use his friends for his excuses to you....I hope my English is make sense...sorry if it not.
*it's only him that can sort this problem*.....don't push him...just encouraging him :-)
2006-10-09 13:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by SERENE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it your husband's idea to go sober or yours? if it was your husband's, and if he has explained to his friends that he's not drinking right now, perhaps you should call one of them and pass on the info that your husband is taking a hiatus from drinking for the time being and you would both (you & your husband) like his friends to support him in this.
2006-10-09 10:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them the truth. If they are good enough friends, they should want to support your husband. If not, then they dont need to be around.
2006-10-09 09:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to tell them he no longer drinks, thanks for the invite. but then again, he needs to have the willpower to be able to visit with friends and not drink. he can sit in the bar have a soda, while they drink. but at first, he needs to be able have the strength to say, i dont drink anymore.
2006-10-09 09:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Joyce K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IMPOSSIBLE
2006-10-09 09:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Nasty Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋