I'm 21 and this guy is 30. I think he's an eligible bachelor, and is interested in getting into a relationship with him
Recently we "accidentally" got too cosy and physical, that we had sex. I commented, "You enjoy having me as a friend with benefits, don't you?" And he replied, "Who knows you might become my girlfriend?"
I don't know what exactly he means. But i'm confused now because he didn't answer me when I ask if he was interested to be with me.
2006-10-09 02:34:07 · 22 answers · asked by gummy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He answered you...think about his statement. Some other people on here said he is using you. Well this may be true but mabe not either. Alot of people our age act very young and irationally. Older men know this and usually won't date us because they know typically 21 isn't the age someone is ready to settle down at. He may take a while to decide if he believes your ready to go ahead. He doesn't want to get hurt either. Hang out for a while see where it goes. If it becomes a come over, sex, leave, then two days later he calls than you know he is using you for sex. But, if he keeps taking you out or caring about you and things more than sex, than he is probably liking you just doesn't know when to act on it!! Good luck, hope everything turns out for you!
2006-10-09 02:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused too. At first I thought he was throwing that 'girlfriend' line out as a way to test your interest in that, but when you showed interest and he's kind of blowing you off, I'm thinking that he's interested in the sex more than a relationship.
How does he react when you see him just to hang out? Is he energetic and happy or not? How about when you two are sitting close together in private when there's a chance there could be sex? Does his demeanor change toward you?
This might be a litmus test to gauge where his intentions are toward you.
GOod luck, you sound like a great girl, and he should appreciate that. If he doesn't, drop him FAST and find someone NICE. :)
2006-10-09 02:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey accidents do happen, I am 25 and my husband is 33. I had met him when I was 20 and he was 28. At first we were taking things slow, but one day just like you we were both comfortable towards one another at that time and things had happened, but we still stayed together. Now we have 2 kids together and of course married. If this man seems to be serious about you talk to him some more. Now if you have not heard from him since you two did what you did then dump him, because he already got what he wanted. I would just try to talk to him and see if he is interested in you. He will be honest. Good luck
2006-10-09 02:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by nbubbyjak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and try and get her to talk to her parents... By her talking to them gives her more options on wether or not she wants to keep it or even adoption she has more options now than she will later. Her parents will find out eventually just make sure it's not to late. And be a good friend and try and help/guide her to make the choices she wants and not what anyone "wants" her to do because she am has to deal with it later on in life no matter what she decides... And like the girl before said her parents will grow to the idea and yes there's a chance they'll loose it but the won't hurt her or the baby. So encourage her to make her decisions that will benefit her in the end.
2016-03-18 07:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You opened the door by your statement:
"You enjoy having me as a friend with benefits, don't you?"
He will never want to have you as a girlfriend if he can be free and do whatever and still get it.
When you made that statement you made a done deal with him. He now thinks that this is the type of relationship you were seeking. You never know this may have been what he was looking for as well.
Best Regards
2006-10-09 02:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you
I personally don't think this guy is respecting you. His answer
seems to be a lead on for him to have more sex without committment
hoping that you'll keep going along with it, believing that he will committ.
There is the age difference also.
so what I suggest is for you to truly value yourself if you want others to value you. If this guy wants to be intimate with you then he needs to respect and
court you before he gets dessert. I'm talking 10 or more actual romantic
dates that he plans without sex. If he is willing to value and respect you in this way, then he might be worth your time. if he's not willing to do this, then
he's using you. I don't want to seem mean, but you are a young lady who deserves to be treated with respect at all times. please do not settle for
anything less. there is a book out there, mars and venus on a date, it's a
great guidline for attracting respectfull dating situations.
I wish you all the best.
any thing you can do to show love and value and respect for yourself will
help you with everything in your life.
Secrets of attraction by sandra anne taylor is actually the best book on this
subject.
take good care of yourself and don't settle.
blessings
willowgreen
2006-10-09 02:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by willowgreen66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you accidentally have sex with someone? That's a first for me. "you might end up becoming my gf"... I assume he meant once we get to know eachother a little better...we can very well be together...
But it's up to you if you want to keep sleeping with him or not during this stage of your relationship. I think you should talk about it with him first. Tell him how you feel. You can try to avoid anymore ACCIDENTS until you know where your relationship stands.... Then take it from there. Good luck!
2006-10-09 02:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well U recieved a lot of answers . Good Advice Chek up on Sandra she might have a point.
Good luck
2006-10-09 02:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Elsalsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well right now he has had what he wanted from you, so now unless he is really into you there is no reason for him to put up the commitment, right now he can sleep with whoever he wants.
Leave him be, next time keep your legs closed.
2006-10-09 02:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO he means that he likes the sex but isn't interested in you as a so/girlfriend at this time - but maybe later.
2006-10-09 02:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋