what do you do to get over a failed relationship?

Question

do you take to the bottle?
take a new man?/ or woman?
or just go out and have a real good time?

what should i do now this relationship has ended?

i didnt say that i would take to the bottle!!
i just asked if you would?

Answer 1

My dear one thing you have to know it is not the end of the world, people come and go but u will still remain as long as you are alive.
Now to look into your problem, taking to the bottle will not solve anything coz when u sobber up the same situation will remain so there will be no progress at all.
The first thing that you should do (i don't know how much u were into this person) but first get rid of any immediate stuff that reminds you of him or her, coz the more u look at these things the more pain you will feel and the more u will keep looking back at the good times. She/He is gone so u have to heal your self no one else is going to do this for you. so remove any framed pics or posters and all the love letters that you may have got over the period of time you were together.
Then secondly look forward to the new day coz u are new and start fulfilling all the plans that u had held back on when with him or her, be it a vaccation, a trip get to it and do it get a new hobby and love it with all your heart after sometime u wont have time to think of him or her pre occupy your self with other things. such that you do not have time to remember what you would be doing with him or her at this time. when ur busy u wont even notice the days and months passing by, b4 u know it will be 6months and u are totaly over him or he.
I warn you my dear dont do any thing drastic dont even think of getting someone else just as yet until you have totaly healed coz now your heart is wounded and u are vulnerable especially if you are a girl. your life is at stake. so watch your moves and stay away from potential sooters(lovers) coz they may just use you and then dump you after getting what they want from you and that may be only sex from which you may end up getting sick coz u may not have the energy to control what is happening around you. if u are a girl i know it will be very difficult for you and it will take you some time to really heal but be strong you can make it just avoid compromising situations and dont think you are very strong to handle anything coz believe me you are not and when anything happend you wont even know what hit you.
Good luck in all and pls be safe.

Answer 2

Take to the bottle? Why should you hurt yourself because of someone else?

Get someone else? Sure - if all you want is sex.

Go out and have a good time? Yes - if it doesn't involve something that will harm you.

It takes time to get over a relationship. This is the time you can take time for yourself to figure out what you really need. I ended a 5 year relationship and it took me over a year and a half to figure out what I needed......and I found him!

Answer 3

Try not to take to the bottle it will only succeed in exaggerating all your feelings, which will result in making you feel worse. I also wouldn’t think that it would be a good idea to jump into another relationship. Give yourself time to recover, go and do something that is 100% for you, whether that is going on a holiday, starting a night class, anything that interests you and will build your confidence.
Good luck and it will get easier.

Answer 4

pretty much in similar situation. First off you allow yourself to cry, you're allowed to mourn for your relationship. Then you get your best most considerate friends (avoid drama queens and self absorbed mates) together for a night in where you eat all the bad yummy stuff and drink copious amounts of wine/ beer/ spirits whilst discussing why men/women are all the same, what exactly this person did to you and why you are far far far better off without them! Then you get yourself together, buy a new outfit, cut your hair whatever will give you some confidence back and then you go out and start enjoying yourself again. Flirt outrageously but stay aloof (never a good idea to get into a rebound relationship) and you'll soon feel much better. Who ever they were they obviously aren't good enough for you. Hope this helps xXx

Answer 5

Just coming through a 25 year relationship breakup, not marriage . The bottle isn't the answer , I just try to keep busy and get on with my life . If someone new comes along all well and good . xx

Answer 6

i feel for you, my mum is going through same thing. all you gotta do is get a new job if you dont like your current one, if you dont have a job, getting one will make you feel 10's better about YOURSELF. You will feel better as something good has come outta something so bad. and only TIME will heal the way you feel regarding him. but you can make yourself feel better, get your confidence up again, DONT lose self-respect for yourself and hit the bottle over a man, please, men already have had enough to answer for. Your family and friends would be dissapointed in you!! and you know deep down you shouldnt let him get you like this, otherwise you wouldnt be asking. Life will feel pointless and sh!ty and you might feel slightly lonely at times, but i SWEAR this will get better, TIME is the best and only healer.

goodluck xx (",)

Answer 7

All I can say is life does go on even if you don't see it yet! Don't start drinking!!!!!! Just take some over due time for yourself and go out with friends or atleast hang out with your friends. It will take awhile trust me! If you know it's over then all theses feelings you have right now will pass, just takes time. Don't rush into anything else it only makes things worse! It will work out just take your time!
Always Amy

Answer 8

Go out and try something or someone new, go wild whilst you have the oppurtunity, life is way too short, and they do say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, lol!

If being in a relationship stopped you from doing something, go out and do it now before yoou get involved again, let go of your inhibitions!

Good Luck

Answer 9

Ok, going through this right now myself.
I don't really do any of the above. I've hung out with my friends, yes, but nothing I'd regret.
I am making sure that I'm doing things that I wanted to do, that I didn't before. I'm also keeping busy so I don't sit around and think about it.

Answer 10

Find yourself..... too many times we rush right back in . And
that to maybe a mistake. Take a class start a new hobby, remodel or paint a room. Just go out with the girls and have fun.