I playfully told my b/f we should breakup. He said ok and got really upset and hung up on me. If he loved me he would have not agreed so easily but then if he didn't love me he wouldn't have gotten so upset. I don't understand him. What should I do and what does this mean? Thanks for your help.
2006-10-09 02:12:27 · 14 answers · asked by Sandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if your boyfriend really got upset, he's probably insecure about the status of your relationship anyway and your idea of being playful probably didn't come across as you had hoped. you shouldn't play around with him like that if he's sensitive to such things. the best thing to do is talk to him; apologise for messing with his emotions and promise to not do that.
2006-10-09 02:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but you made a bad mistake. You used very poor judgement.
You don't playfully tell someone you want to break up with them, especially on the phone. Obviously it wasn't taken as being 'playful'. Now you have introduced doubt and distrust into your relationship because of this.
It has nothing to do with how he feels for you, but it has everything to do with how HE thinks YOU feel toward him. And obviously he is reacting to that and feels hurt over it.
You're attitude seems like it is coming from a selfish point of view, where you seem to feel it's ok to use bad judgement, and then you have the nerve to look surprised when it blows up in your face.
I think YOU should see about how to correct YOUR mistake and you'd better get off you a.s.s and get on it because the wedge you shoved between yourself and him will go deeper and deeper while you sit around asking all kinds of questions and wait for answers.
Call him and apologize.....profusely, and next time.....THINK before you open your mouth. We all make mistakes, but some just should not happen; like this one.
Good luck to you...........sheesh.
2006-10-09 09:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a number of things but the only way your going to find out is by asking him directly, explain to him that you were only kiding at the time figure out where you realation ship stands and the you will figure out what to do once you get all the proper informantion from the main source IE your boy friend. Be prepare to hear something you might not want to hear it seems to be that he was mad at you already maybe he feels like he needs space give him some breathing room if he like you he will come to you ;)
2006-10-09 09:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by chemdog23_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm mm... Breakup! It is interesting. I know other girls like you.
You are not in fault. Generally speaking, all most girls enjoy saying `playfully` word without thinking. So, you are not in fault.
In short, I think he like you, not love. So, he is OK reply.
In this case, you would better say to him that I love you with lovely voice.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-09 09:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Yongsik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your boyfriend seem kinda quick to hang up on you... if i were u and u seem like you want to be with him again i would give him a call or better yet catch him somewhere... knowin that he will be there approach him ask him if we can speak and explain the whole thing to him and that i was J/K!! and if he does not respond to you in a positive way then i would figure he just was losing interest but dont sweat it i doubt it will be
2006-10-09 09:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You playfully told your boyfriend that you should breakup???? When you do something silly like that, you should be prepared for most any reaction....
You owe him an apology.....and an explanation, if you have one.....
2006-10-09 09:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by jrsgurl62 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy, but if he got so upset then you must mean something to him.. if he didn't love you, he woulda just been like ok.. whatever.. and showed no emotion.. trust me...
2006-10-09 09:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by holly w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
were you joking when you told your boyfreind that you were braking up with him . if its a joke then that kinda of your fault . iam sorry to say this
2006-10-09 09:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by messiry86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you have another guy and will accept nothing more,he is probably hurt and mad at the same time.
2006-10-09 09:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up sandra, where was the need to be playful in this silly manner ? Now face it.
2006-10-09 09:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋