i love my bf.. but some stuff has happened that is keeping us apart unwillingly.. but i feel like im the only one trying to make things work out... i love him.. but i can't make him want to be in the relationship... ugh
2006-10-09 01:57:30 · 8 answers · asked by holly w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will never ever be able to force him to do anything. The more you try, the more you will get the opposite effect. Do the right thing for the right reason, and respect yourself.
Don't contact him more than he contacts you. Don't send him long emails, don't leave him ANY voice mails. Guys who like you will CALL you--you deseve a F***ing phone call.
I was heartsick over a guy when I read the book "He's Just Not That Into You". I didn't want to read it because I didn't want to believe it. That book liberated me and changed my life.
2006-10-09 02:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got it exactly - "you can't make him want to be in the relationship". I've been there, done that. In my ex b/fs case, he was passive aggressive - he wanted the relationship to end because he wasn't happy, but he wasn't going to be the one to do it. He treated me poorly, thinking that if he pushed enough, I'd be the one to end things - but I didn't. Eventually he made up an excuse about something he thought I'd done & used that as a reason to end it. If you feel that you are the only one trying to make things work out, it's probably true. He's had enough but doesn't have the guts to come out & give you a solid reason for ending it. Get with him, have a talk. Tell him exactly what you've written here - & see what he says. If you are reading the situation correctly, it will give you a chance to hear his side of the story. If he wishes to end it, then you can do so cleanly - no hanging on wondering if it's over or not - you'll know it's over. Try to get him to talk with you openly & honestly, without accusations or anger.
If he wants out, then you should move on & find someone else to lavish your love & attention on. Good luck & I wish you well.
2006-10-09 09:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is one sided then you are putting all your energy in and getting nothing but stress in return. Move on and find someone who respects and loves you as much as you love them. We all have to kiss many frogs before we find prince charming.
2006-10-09 09:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the few details you have given, I think you're better off if you split up. If things are keeping you apart, as hard as it may be you should move on.
2006-10-09 09:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by GAB & R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can change a man is if he's in diapers.
I tried for 10+ years to change my husband and it was a waste of my time. If he's not what you need or want just the way he is, then get rid of him. You deserve better. Men have to WANT to change before they will change.
2006-10-09 08:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if stuff keep happen to keep the two of you a part that is sign to stay away.
2006-10-09 09:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sweepy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worrie about it if it was ment to be it will find a way.
2006-10-09 09:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving up.
2006-10-09 08:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋