My ex bf broke up with me around a month ago now. At first he was really horrible but now we are friends but when he is with me he wants more than friends. We both stayed around our mates house and he was paranoid i was talking about him. We both stayed in a bed in his house and he was all over me. I didnt have sex with him though. He says he still has feelings for me but doesnt want a girlfriend. He knows me and him could work again and be happy but right now he doesnt want a girlfriend! He wants to see me and kiss and cuddle me becuase he says he likes that and it does feel right. It does for me to but i want it for the right reasons Please help because i am starting to dislike him being likle this I dont kno why he cant just make his mind up x we were together year and a half
2006-10-09 01:37:40 · 9 answers · asked by moi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He seems to be using you as he doesn't want a relationship, only sex!!!
2006-10-09 01:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moi, I wouldn't wait for any man unless I knew he wasn't going to have sex or cuddle with anyone else, and I knew that maybe he just needed a little time. In your case that is not the case! This guys knows that when ever he doesn't have a date he can always come back to you and get what he wants. You need to let him know we are either together as a couple or we are just friends only!!!!!!!! Guys have away of trying to make you feel good, and use you at the same time, not all but a lot of them! Stand your ground girl, and start looking somewhere else! Maybe stay away from him fo awhile?? See if he realizes what he has lost? No matter what don't give in!
Always Amy
2006-10-09 08:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you desire a commitment from him then you need to tell him that , that is how it is going to be and if he does not want that then you need to move on other wise he is just going to use you as a f*** friend. He is saying as I see it that he has no respect for you. He wants all the perks of a girlfriend but with out the commitment. Is he seeing other girls nad not telling you about it. Why would yo ustill want to hang around someone you said was horrible you when you first broke up? He sounds very immature to me. I would just let him go and go find someone who will treat you with respect!
2006-10-09 08:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he just wants the "benefits" of a girl friend - without the commitment. If you want the same, then go with it - enjoy. But if you want the commitment end of it, to be a girlfriend, then you need to cut him off completely! He wants what he wants - your needs don't seem to matter at all. That's a big sacrifice! Think of yourself first!
2006-10-09 08:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's like you're describing me !
Mmh, are you sure you're talking about me ?
Oh well, the reason, I do that to my ex-girlfriend is because..err.. I feel good when she's around, she treats me well and all. But she is a WIFE style girl, not an exciting FUN GIRLFRIEND girl, if you know what I mean...
Hope you both can make it work.. good luck.
2006-10-09 08:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by Brucolik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He told you what he wants.. He doesn't want a girlfriend, but he wants to be physical.. Meaning, he wants to have sex, without the commitment... You have the choice to tell him no, or yes.. It's entirely up to you.. Just remember if you agree to that, he will not be your boyfriend. He just wants a friends w/ benefits relationship.
2006-10-09 08:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have faced this problem myself.i think its not u but its ur bf who is confused.i think u shud talk to him abt it.and make him feel jealous and make him realize how much he needs u and then every thing is gonna be alright.if he only needs sex then i think u shud show him the way out of ur life.
best of luck.
2006-10-09 08:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by diya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be sure to know if its not just sex he wants or if he really wants to take advantage of u. listen to your heart.if it tells you you love him and he still loves you, thats if it ever existed, then be careful and take it slowly. don't be deceived by what he does or what u feel.
2006-10-09 08:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by maize 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY HE JUST WQANTS SEX...ITS SOOO CLEAR AND SIMPLE
2006-10-09 08:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋