is there a way to handle rejection to brush it off without losing confidence? Got quite few no's from girls

Question

Is there a way of boosting ones confidence and feeling better about oneself once rejected by a bird.? Im getting put off going for girls cos I fear rejection, if only rejection could lead to enhanced ego not a deflated one chances are id chase more and get the bird i wanted anyway? Any thoughts folks!!

Answer 1

Nobody likes to be rejected.so everybody feels bad..I'm sure soon a girl will say yes to you if not have a word with a close female friend or relative and ask her if you are doing something wrong..she could probably give you better advice because she knows you.

Answer 2

First off ask yourself why am I getting rejected? Take a good look at yourself in a full length mirror and evaluate your overall appearence. You don't have to be Brad Pit to be good looking. Do you have that John Boy Walton look or do you look like a menber of KISS band or some where in between. Generally what we do as a teenager (tattoos, body pierceing & ect) lasts for life unless professionally removed. Most women, young or older prefer a Donald Trump (shaved, mans haircut) wearing a suit or nice casual clothing. The gansta, baggy pants, tattoos, body pierceings and spiked hairdos are a total turn off to any woman with common sence. If you look freaky that may be your problem. How are your manners and your language? Are you polite or a potty mouth? Respect for yourself and others and clean language go a long way to appeal to a woman. Even in today's free swinging society the old ways and values are still there and you are judged on your manners, speach, dress and the way you carry yourself. The better you look and act will go a long way in getting a nice lady friend. Look at yourself seriousely and ask yourself the above questions and I am sure you will come up with an answer. Good luck and take care. I hope you find that special some one.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean. I have had a few rejections and it hurts so bad, I have not approached a guy since. Dont get me wrong - I am an attractive woman - thats part of why I took it so badly. I just couldnt underdtand. And that was like three years ago. So dont do what I did. Get back on the horse, otherwise you wil just end up like me, having nothing more than meaningless flings all the time, and you really dont want that to happen lol!!! Well maybe you do but believe me it isnt that satisfying at all. Its quite scary.

Answer 4

Sorry mate, no way of turning a rejection into a positive experience.

Maybe you should consider just chatting to girls rather that going in for the kill straight away. That way even if they give you the brush off you could say did you think I was chatting you up because I wasnt I was just having a conversation.

Just deal with it you are going to get rejection a lot of the time because you are probable looking at goods that are out of your league. we all do it and some times it works so keep trying.

Answer 5

I've heard it takes 3 seconds to form an opinion about someone. I'd say a large proportion of the time that opinion is way off. This opinion is made up solely on appearance. Its a very unfair game but that's human nature. Its been noted that women looked for an attractive partner all the way back to the time of cavemen. People may be deep, but if they're not presented well a girl won't want to test the waters.
It also depends on where and when you make your advances. If its in a club, good luck to you. The music's too loud for converstaion, and the competition's dressed up to the max for female attention. If your not presented well you won't even get a second look. Also, confidence is a huge factor. Believe in yourself. You're not the only one to be rejected. It happens to all of us. Even the one's you may feel jealous of.
One trick I found is read women's mags. I started reading More when I moved in with my girlfriend as that was the only thing to read in the toilet - stacks of them. I had no idea how much info you can get from them. It's like struggling with a computer game and finding a cheats book. Since then I've begun listening to my girl more about girlie thing she likes. Try Sex and the City - lots more clues about how women think. Even the film What Women Want. None of my friends have seen it and they don't have a clue about women.
Thanks to my girlfriend's addiction to gossip mags it feels like I've been given a torch in the dark. I now feel its my duty to pass this info on to all underdogs in the hope that you can find happiness like I have. Don't change who you are, just adapt.
Be confident, true to yourself, and remember, nice guys finish last. Be he who laughs last, laughs best. And dude, I'm laughing now.

Answer 6

Maybe you are chasing imaginary girls and not the ones you really fancy.

By that I mean the girls you ask are the ones who would enhance your image amongst the male sex rather than those who would make you happy.

Maybe you come on as too needy. That is easily done.

Stop and think about what you really want in a girlfriend and then slow down a little so that you can see the wood for the trees.

And good luck!

Answer 7

Dont let rejection loose your self confidence. If the girl says no then brush it off and think to yourself she doesnt know what she is missing. Also remember there is other fish in the sea and the right one is out there for you. Just remember to keep your head held up and stay positive. Good luck

Answer 8

No doubt in my mind, Firefly is on the money. I'm watching a breakup right now (2 days ago) and the girl broke up with the boy, and he won't quit calling her, and, in an effort to get rid of him, she then tried telling him that she is seeing someone else (which is not true) and he just doesn't get it. Breaking up hurts---period--- when you're the one getting dumped.

Answer 9

the only way to built confidence is to take a risk, yes you may get hurt along the way but that is what life is all about. if the rejected you they were not right for you in the first place, don't play the what if game you'll just turn your self inside out. Just pick your self up and get on with it. try to me friends first build up a re-pore and take things slow and see where it takes you,

Answer 10

you don't need to be afraid of being rejected,personal i've encounter several rejection in my time but today i come out strong and better prepare for anything including the worst and i have a better confidence in myself and abilty to get what i want and who i want and today i am the master of the game all because i take rejection with laughter...so pal laugh it off.