I'm getting married next year. Everything is booked and i bought my dress a few weeks ago. I met a guy in a chatroom 4years ago. We had a relationship more like best friends. We have both had other relationships. When i told him that i was getting married he was pleased for me. Now he keeps sending texts asking for rude pics and telling me how amazing his new girlfriend is. He has told me that he wants to be with me and that he's still in love with me. I know that he is only saying this because i'm getting married but i'm starting to really doubt my fellings for my fiance. What can i do? Should i cut off all ties with him? i dont want to end up doing somthing stupid. Help!
2006-10-09 01:16:03 · 21 answers · asked by moopoppet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have to really think. Why did you say yes to your fiance? You probably would not have said yes unless you really did want to marry this guy. I think everyone has second thoughts about marriage. Is it the right thing to do? Will I be happy? But in the end, it works out alright.
Maybe try ignoring the chatroom ex. The wedding is your number one priority. Just be excited about all the fun times you are going to have with your fiance.
Also if you are still having doubts, think about it this way. Who do you see yourself having children with, living with, growing old with, spending the holidays with, etc.
2006-10-09 09:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer is in the question. Cut off ties with the chatroom ex - he is causing you to doubt yourself and could end up destroying a happy time in your life. I guess you said you'd marry your fiance because you love him...?
2006-10-09 08:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by stevensontj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have any contact with this guy.
Really focus on why you are getting married.
Are you in love with your fiance? can you imagine been without him? Do you both want the same things in life?
My feeling is that this chat room guy has only become a more attractive proposition to you as a way of avoiding issues with your current partner.
I'm afraid that your thoughts about the chat room man only fancying you because you are unobtainable are probably correct.
Just remember not only do you not have to get married if your not ready, but you don't need to be with any man to make you happy.
2006-10-09 08:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was a "chat partner" and you're engaged to someone whom you're in love with....drop all ties with this virtual person he's merely attempting to ruin your happiness. Knowing that some will jump when feelings are connected he's not within your grasp your fiance is and leaving him for someone on the net may be the worst mistake you could ever make.
May you and yours be blessed and have a lifetime of bliss.
)o( Goddess Bless )o(
2006-10-09 09:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Deity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off all ties A-S-A-P! Tell him if he doesn't leave you alone that you will report him for harassment. Why would you want anything to do with this guy? He sounds like a pig. Step back and take a look at this from a new angle.
2006-10-09 08:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off all contact with the chatroom dude and focus on your relationship with your fiance........there is a reason you are with your fiance and you should make sure you do not lose sight of that.
2006-10-09 08:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Benno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off ALL ties with this guy. If you still have doubts about your fiance, do him a favor and break the engagement.
2006-10-09 11:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, you are already doing stupid for having a relationship with a "CHATROOM" person. What's wrong with you?!? Your fiance is a real thing, not some guy behind a keyboard.
2006-10-09 08:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to you or your fiance if you are second guessing your feelings towards him. Don't end up being another statistic of a marraige that ends in divorce.
Don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without.
2006-10-09 08:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real question is who do you want! don't marry unless its what you really want to do. if you can look in the mirror and know your doing the right thing then you are. cut of ties if he it is easier for you or ask him to back off! the only Person who can answer this questions is you!
2006-10-09 08:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋