Ilive with my best friend(a guy). We've been sleeping together since the begginning of the year(exclusively).It has turned into something i never expected. Do i tell him?
2006-10-09 00:49:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-09 00:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by lost one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Don't tell him yet. What do you hope to gain by telling him this?
Think about the situation before you tell him:
Okay, you've been sleeping together - exclusively - for almost a year. What else have you been doing together? Is he spending a lot of quality time with you? Does he call you often? Does he want to see you often? Do you two go out often? Is he still romantic? Do you two have good conversations where he enjoys talking to you? Does he like to suprise you every now and then? Does he enjoy seeing you happy? Or, trying to make you happy? Does he pass you over (or leave you "hanging" to go out with his friends? Do you argue often? Is he often happy to see you? Does he sometimes get jealous or nervous if you're away too long or if he sees you talking to another guy?
You have to think about those things because what's love for you may just be a "friend" or "good sex" or a "cute girl" to him.
If you love him, that's cool, but to be honest, that's the way YOU FEEL. It MAY or MAY NOT be the way he feels. If you tell him you love him, he might respond with an "I love you too" but you have to look at how he really treats you to truly know if he cares about you in the same way - which it really doesn't matter - because if you love him, that's your love. And it's something you can't change - regardless of whether he loves you or not!
Like I said before: What do you hope to gain by telling him this? Do you hope it will make him love you? Or, do you hope he will tell you the same thing? It doesn't matter what you say. Either he loves you or he doesn't.
Open your eyes and pay more attention to what he does, says, and how he acts. If he loves you, he will show it - if that's what you're hoping for.
(sorry incomplete - girlfriend calling)
Brother DzL (AsP)
"The Player's Lifestyle" (website)
2006-10-09 08:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really lov him,show the signs that u like him.
Let him take the 1st step towards it. If that does not occur, find a nice apportunity to tell him. Dont drag urself too deep in this matter. U will spoil the relationship if u acted as if u r too much interasted. If u get the feeling that his thoughts about u are changing ,then in every step keep a little patience.
If nothing works ,ask him straight away.....
So good luck!
2006-10-09 08:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you consider yourself a couple? Is he your boyfriend? If he doesn't respond back the same way, will this make your living sitituation awkard (For instance, would you need to find a new place to live)?
If you've considered all of these, and you think it will go well, go for it. You might want to take a babystep, like asking him your relationship status. I love you, is very scary in some ways, so ease him into it.
Good luck!
2006-10-09 07:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by viennagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've slept together with him, and he's never told you anything, he probably just wants to sleep with you and nothing more. Either that, or he doesn't show respect for the one he loves, which sucks as well.
2006-10-09 07:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ambre Rene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure!
My girlfriend told me about her love first...
Now it is a 7 years we are together and everything is OK. So, go ahead, don't think there is something wrong. Good luck!
2006-10-09 07:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Georgio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a wonderful feeling to be in luv!Before you tell him,make sure that it truly is love and not lust or infactuation disguised as love!If in your heart you feel that he feels the same way,then go for it.Make your relationship known.
2006-10-09 07:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him, especially since you have been sleeping together. I am in a simialar situation and I told him.
2006-10-09 07:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by steph33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a friends w benefits thing- does he consider you his gf- or just f.?Tell him and see what happens- that may be the only way you know- do tell-D
2006-10-09 07:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah! maybe hes feeling the same but just dont have the guts to tell you! let him know! Good luck!
2006-10-09 07:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by SamsMomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋