We knew each other recently and I find her attractive and mature and good at heart. She has a leg problem so she limps when walking and because of that, she does not seem to attract anyone except me.But I have my love also.I guess if she knows that I have a girl, she will feel bad and know that I cannot continue with her.
I don't want to hurt her feelings, neither do I want to hurt my girl's feelings.
What should I do? Should I tell her that I have a girlfriend?
2006-10-09 00:12:42 · 22 answers · asked by Master Lu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speaking from experience, when you're in a long term relationship things can almost always seem greener on the other side. You have to really think long and hard about this because if you decide to leave your girlfriend, and things don't go well with this new lass, you may not be given a second chance to go back to your girlfriend. A new person in your life can be exciting and different, especially if you have feelings for this person, but there must also be a reason you stuck with your girl for three years.
I've found that a big problem with men is that, when we've been with one woman for a long time, we start to wonder if we've still "got it". Temptation is all around us and it is very hard to turn away. Look but don't touch, (and don't get caught ;o)
If you truely loved your girlfriend, look her in the eye, and see if any of those strong feelings still come flooding back. If so, stay where you are.
The most important thing is this: All the advise you may receive for this from others is only guidelines. There is no right or wrong way to answer this. And it's easier for us to answer because we can forget about it once we submit an answer. You are the one who must live with the decision. You are the only one who can make the choice.
REMEMBER, whatever you decide, you may always be wondering about the alternative. Every day is filled with "What if" situations. Try not to think about it because there is nothing you can do about it. Every option has an alternative, a sacrifice. That's the beauty of choice. Be happy with what you chose because you can't have it all.
Be true to your feelings and sensitive to others'. If you decide to leave your girl after three years for another girl it could get ugly. If you decide to stay with her you must be honest with this new girl. The best thing you can do with any relationship with a girl is be honest and sensitive. It will benefit you. The biggest problem in any relationship is a lack of communication. Learn to express yourself thru words, but think before you speak.
Good luck.
2006-10-09 00:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by James M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her you have a gf - and have had one for 3 years. If you go with this new girl, the last 3 years will have been wasted. I have been with my faincee for 7 years now - there has been a lot of temptation, but I did the right thing and stuck with her. That's the more manly thing to do my friend - stick with it. Sounds to me like you feel sorry for her more than you feel anything else for her (the girl with the limp I mean).
2006-10-09 07:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyedboy3004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. If you like confusion then continue on with this other girl. Be honest with her in a way that she would understand. If you have a girlfriend for 3 years why venture out?
2006-10-09 07:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you two are only friends,you hv to be honest,as friends always tell honesty no matter what's the truth is. If you care about both girls then you hv to be careful that now u hv 2 relationships. Caring n loving can stay together as long as u keep learning how to make ur time for ur friend n ur gf. One day u'll find ur answer for both of them. Keep the good work !!
2006-10-09 09:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Aii29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get her hopes up for nothing. It's a dangerous thing to do.
Just tell her.
I once had this guy who liked me, I didn't like him back and didn't dare to tell him. This indirectly led to me leading him on. He got real dissapointed after that and thwat was the end of our friendship.
If you dont tell her now, the same thing might happen.
2006-10-09 07:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ambre Rene 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be kind, honest, accept the slap or tears or upset like a man and give both of you a chance to walk away with decency and some respect left. In short, make your decision and be a real man about it.
2006-10-09 07:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude thats stupid if u have been goin out wit a girl 4 3 years and u love her u would have already told her so yea tell her
2006-10-09 07:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Need help!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really liked this girl then you would tell her that you have a girlfriend otherwise you are going to break her heart.Good Luck xx
2006-10-09 08:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by SUSAN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes u shud tell her tht u hav a gf before she start developin feelins for u. If she develops feelins for u thn it'l be more difficult for u n her.
2006-10-09 07:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Nas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell her, as she no doubt would appreciate it if you told her than if someone else did, at least she would realise you care enough to be honest with her and you can tell her what an attractive person. etc she really is
2006-10-09 07:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋