We're not technically "exclusive" since we live around 40 minutes away from each other but we talk on the phone a lot. She told me she went to homecoming and that she only wanted to dance with me (since I wasn't able to come) and didn't do anything. I found out she did dance with some oher guys and maybe grinded but I dunno what to do if she tells me she lied. I don't really want to be reactive or unreactive if she tells me. If I come off unreactive, it will be like I don't value honesty but if I'm reactive, it'll seem that I'm an insecure jerk. If she tells me, I'm just thinking about telling her that I'm glad she told the truth but that I don't appreciate that people lie to me becaus I don't take that behavior from anyone else, including myself.
Any feedback?
Thanks
2006-10-08 23:56:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said yourself that you and she are not exclusive. With that nether of you owe each other any thing. She probably feels like it's really not any of your business what she does. Sounds to me like she was just trying to put you off. I know this was not the answer you were expecting but' Sometimes women to keep from hurting a mans feelings will say things like that in hopes you will go on and let it go.
2006-10-09 00:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If technically you're not exclusive then why bother? She's doing her thing and you are doing yours basically. If there is no relationship or understanding that the two of you are a couple then she owes you nothing and vice versa.
2006-10-09 00:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she did say she only wanted to dance w you- but did she say she was not going to dance w anybody else?? and by her saying she did not do anything , is she talking sex?? maybe she didn't = what is the point of going to a dance if you are not going to dance- ld relationships are rough- ru her bf or not? you need to clear some things up= or leave them and keep guessing- your call=
2006-10-09 00:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have doubts, get answers. But if you don't trust her, you don't have much of a relationship, either. Your call, but I'd say you've learned that you had better be there for her when she has a big event on her calendar regardless. (So don't confuse your feelings of guilt with feelings of mistrust. That would be lying, wouldn't it?)
2006-10-09 00:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face fact saddo you are never going to get another girlfriend so put up with it. God Bless You
2006-10-09 00:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always tell her that liars should never be trusted. That if they lie about one thing then they will lie about something else.
2006-10-08 23:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her !
2006-10-09 00:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Janey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋