2006-10-08 23:45:01 · 21 answers · asked by happiness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Peter Pan Syndrome.
Eventually they do. It takes men longer to nest than women. Relax. Have patience. If he is the right one he will come around. If not, kick him out of the nest and move on.
2006-10-08 23:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a number of reasons. Not all but most men don't want to be tied down to just one person especially the younger ones. Some have not been taught about responsibility or commitment. There are others who will do this but under false pretenses. Every situation is different.
2006-10-09 06:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a marriage that is currently in its 38th year. Men do commit. Men also accept responsibility. The problem is a lot of women do not see marriage as a partnership rather as security for them and their children. When you are a man under 25 and thinking about long term relationships and children the thought is quite deterring, for sixteen years minimum you are going to have to deveote 100% of your free time and at least 33% of your income to bringing up a child and teaching them right from wrong. If you have 2 children at least 66% of your income is spoken for for the next 16-25 years. Three children means 99% of your income is gone, that leaves you 1% to pay your taxes buy your car treat your partner have some fun.
That's the financial side. Then there is the emotional drain and strain on your partnership you are bound to disagree on what to do about Mary's period, and Johnny's failure to do his homework.
Alternatively you can choose the batchelor lifestyle where all you need to consider is yourself!
IS IT ANY WONDER THAT MOST MEN THINK CAREFULLY (AND WARILY) BEFORE THEY COMMIT.
Then of course there is the female partner's behaviour and lifestyle to consider.
Just remember this girls, us boys think in a completely different way to you. When you accept that, and persuade or coerce your partner to accept it, then and only then can you start to build that committed long term relationship.
I would suggest that you settle all the major issues between you before you commit yourselves. Agreeing to differ is fine, but you must know which of you is going to have the vetoe when you cannot agree on something.
The above is only part of the story, I just don't have time to write an encyclopedia like statement. the missus wants my time again, sigh!
2006-10-09 08:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by scrambulls 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, let us set the record straight. Many men take upon responsibility and make short and even long term commitments.
From the tenor of your question, it looks like you are having a problem with men you meet. Your body language, your reputation, the company you keep, the way you talk, etc. send a signal to all kinds of men. The signals you send out will attract the kind of men that are being drawn towards you. Try to examine yourself. Ask lady friends who attract men who make commitments and are not afraid to take responsibilities to give you advise to enable you to attract the right kind of men. Real men.
2006-10-09 06:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Bong-Jeweller of San Francisco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is a state of affairs when you realize you’ve gone too far in a relationship and it has made you certifiably insane. Now he/she wants all of you time, every minute, no looking at others, spend all the money on them, and they’ll complain all the time. At this point you are able to be committed into a Mental Facility, hence the term “Commitment.”
2006-10-11 14:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by chupaflor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word: restriction. We men were raised with the notion for us to "have-it-all." Once we say yes a commitment we automatically started to feel "deprived," "caged in." We sever the tie to feedom. Most of us just can't help it, so we panic. Panic, to us, is socially unacceptable. Panic means: losing control. We were brought up to always be in control. Loss of control means weakness. Weakness means failure. Failure leaves us at the bottom of the food chain. No longer can we live amongst the strong when it comes to "Survival-of-the-fittest." We want to be accepted as one of the strong guys, so we do what we have to do inorder to keep the "rank." Total guy thing.
2006-10-09 06:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by Divo Saint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men and if that is the kind of men you keep running into or attracting than change your tactics so you won't draw the same kind of loser over and over.I've found that I am responsible for the kind of spirit I allow into my world and the same action bring the same results for me so I am changing up my vision.
2006-10-09 06:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
As a 44 year old woman, I think I can answer this question.. IT'S BECAUSE THEY ARE MEN!!! they don't need any other reason, forget them and get yourself a dog for the companionship (and they don't make as much mess or have sweaty feet)
2006-10-09 06:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a typical girls question
because my dear we are different than women and we do have lots of responsibilities just sometimes women just don't want to understand men its the same the other way around so just try to live happy
2006-10-12 06:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dino V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably something to do with their need to procreate.
Men need to procreate and sex, whether we like it or not, is something they are programmed to do.
Commitment is scary for anyone.
There is probably a various amount of psychological reasons for the vast majority of men and woman e.g past relationships, mother and father, grandparents...
You can't really pinpoint everyone.
As with woman, they need to find the person who they are psyically and mentally attracted to.
Before that, they need to spread the seed, so to say.
2006-10-09 06:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Gracee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋