Since I became single after a long term relationship about 4 months ago I have this one girl that I once dated who wont get off my case.
She keeps inviting me out for drinks - I constantly decline
She wants to go over some things she's written with me - I've told her I'm very busy
She calls me up asking to come round for a chat - I pretend I'm already expecting friends round
so on and so forth...
SURELY she would have got the message... in the nicest possible way, without hurting her too much... how do I get rid of this Girl?
2006-10-08 23:41:27 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe next time she phones up saying she wants to meet, say you cant because you have a date with this really nice girl you've been seeing.. unless she's a complete dimwit she should get the message.
2006-10-08 23:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by lisaandmax 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that after how bad you got your heart torn out of your chest by the woman who you recently found out had been sleeping around behind your back for the last year with not one, but two different other guys. You thought things were going great and had no idea that that the woman that you loved , trusted, and worked so hard so she could have the things a queen deserves, out of total left field leaves you while your at work one day, and you come home to a nice little note on top of the sleeping bag she was nice enough to leave in the otherwise empty house, that read i'm sorry but I need to be by myself for a while, it's not you it's me, take care! Your a really good person you'll meet someone else. After that she'll totally understand why you will probably never trust another woman again, and that is the reason you have chosen to go ahead and bat for the other team for a while. Act like your really happy, things could'nt be better, then tell her its a good deal I double my wardrobe, I don't worry about lifting the toilet seat, and I got a new golf partner. He even makes the bed every morning, and makes my coffee, i'm in love. This same teqnique I had to use on this fatal attraction stalker chick that would not leave me alone, she lost her kids, her job, her house, because she dedicated her life to following me every place I went, jobsites, all the way across town, you name it. You make em think you like a nice cone island without the chilli, and without the bun, your golden. Lifes too short for drama!
2006-10-09 00:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by CHAMAULI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you want to do this in the nicest possible way, therefore I would recommend face-to-face. Maybe at a pub, or somewhere neutral to you both. That way you can state your case and get out without complications. Women like to talk so that is the best way to be heard by them. ("Cling-Ons" don't recognise a cold shoulder.) You must explain to her that you're not looking for a relationship, or that you don't find her attractive, she's not your type, etc. BE HONEST. Explain to her that you're beginning to feel suffocated by her constant advances. You're free and single again and you want to explore your space for a while. Boys need "Lads time". Speaking from experience, women can take up a lot of time and after a long term relationship you want to see more of your friends. There is no easy way of letting a keen girl down, so just be honest with her. She will appreciate it more. Also, try to be sensitive. This requires patience on your part as she may turn crazy, emotional, etc., or she may take it well. The point is you can walk away from this as you want to. She will be the disappointed one so take a moment to think about her feelings.
Remember in any relationship be it work, friends, and partners, the best tool you can ever bring is communication and honesty. ESPECIALLY with women.
And one more thing, as I said, women llike to talk. But they LOVE to *****. You may end up with a friend of hers by chance one day and the way you do this can get back to her.
Be the good guy. It may be half an hour (or less) of hard work, but you'll be walking out of there a happy, free man with no black cards against your name.
2006-10-09 00:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what your doing and she will get the message. After you keep declining and making excuses, she will notice and after she has done it so much with no luck she will give up. Just keep putting her off and she'll stop it. You could also just not answer your phone if you see her number on your caller id. Or you could try and get your number changed and not be in the phone directory so if anyone is trying to get your number they won't be allowed to. There are many ways to ignore her. I think the best way to be with this is to just flat out tell her because obviously she doesn't get the point right now. Her feelings are going to be hurt regardless of whether your nice about it or not so you should just go ahead and get it over with.
2006-10-08 23:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this a typical case of the obsecive exgirl friend, the first thing you need to do is search your feelings be sure that you want to end this relationship once and for all, once you have stablish that then their is only one course of action, you have to be brutally hosnest with her make it clear to her that you want nothing to do with this realionship in other words breake down barney style keep it simple supid, she will eventually get the picture and yeah she will be hurt for a while but she will eventually recover the is no
easy way of braking up with this type of females specially if she really loves you. Just hope that it doen't bit you in the *** later on when you need her help for something.
2006-10-08 23:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by chemdog23_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't care about how you feel about what she's doing, or trying to do, so why should you have to care how she feels if you turn her down.
She probably depends on your fear of hurting her, hence her persistence. Just tell her the truth and ask her to please leave you alone.
Just tell her straight out that you had been as polite as possible in declining her invitations but you really don't want to go out with her. By merely "making excuses", she probably thinks you mean "maybe later". Just say "No!"
2006-10-08 23:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way from what you say but start by saying what have you been eating god your putting on weight.next time your looking pale whats wrong with you .next day boy you should use deodorant next day i met this gorgous chick yesterday where going out for dinner.next day is that your grandmothers dress .
These are not nice what i am telling you you will hurt her feelings a bit but if she stays after all that move cities and dont tell her.
2006-10-09 00:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIe. U can talk to her. Call her up for a dinner, sit n thn u tell her, ask her wht she feels n let her knw tht ur not in a position to make any otha relationship with any one at this tym. U want to be urself. Giv time to urself. U make it clear to her in a polite way tht u r not interested in this any more. U can order a nice dish for her tht makes her happy thn u can tell her this. Try this out
2006-10-08 23:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. The fact is that you feel bad about having encouraged her, and now you don't want to be the bad guy. Well, tough! Stop avoiding the issue and deal with it. The best thing you can do for her is tell her you're not interested and she needs to move on..
2006-10-09 00:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. You are not interested in her. That is the nicest way. The other by putting her off, she still sees hope. This way she knows it is completely over.
2006-10-08 23:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋