i am 17 years. a girl studying in 12th commerce. i m shatriya rajput by caste. my birth date is 16th march 1989. i belong to a verry orthodox family.
2006-10-08 23:12:52 · 28 answers · asked by kari_162005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont' want to be rude, but you need to do soemthign about that. Cheating on them is not good. I have been cheated on too many times.I know how it feels. it is bad. And you have to decide what you want, to marry the one yu are engaged to, or to be with the other one. and you have to leave one, cause sooner or later they will find out. its just not fair to them. let one move on and be happy with someone else so you are not ruining his life by cheati ng.
2006-10-08 23:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by kenny032004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit back and think why you except to marry one man,
is it love or just because you think you should. you also might want to think back what attract you about this other guy that you cheated with. appearance sweet talk or love at first sight or just because that's what you like to do. do you feel love or are you being selfish and don't want someone else to share moment's like you have. What if you were in his place would you understand if he came clearly to you. or found out threw the grape vine
I have not been in a situation like this before but looking at it from the outside, I would think either you don't love the guy your going to marry and the thought of marriage is not a true desire with him anyway Your only 17 you have a life in front of you where you will meet many more people and being married so young might cause a divorce in the future. like for the reasons that you have posted or any other. I cant really blame you because you are young and don't realize that you have a whole life in front of you and because you are a teenager. But after being advise I think you can make a choice and be fair to your self and the men in your life. tell the one your going to marry that you cumming clean with a confession and he should know if he brakes up with you you need to except it after all you are the cheater and if he forgives you you need not to see the other person anymore or vise Vesa withe other other on. telling him the truth also.
You know you cant always ask someone for a ride and drive too. unless it belongs to you... p.s if they find out first they might both dump you be one step ahead and get it over with ...hope your having safe sex!!!
2006-10-09 06:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by huera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very orthodox family would no doubt tell you what to do if you confessed all to them. If you were an American, I'd say try giving them "Big Love" and asking whether you three could get along. But in India, I don't think that would work. Good luck to you, girl. You're clearly going to have to give up the guy to whom you are not engaged, so you can marry the one you promised to marry.
Frankly, I recommend you wake up and smell the incense!
2006-10-09 06:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'd lik to tell u only this that u got to FEEL it yourself that r u really in love with both or is it just infatuation..coz u cant love tow at a time..one might be just a very cls friend n the other might be Ur love...but 4 now luk at Ur atmosphere n xpress urslf to both the guys n tell them what u feel..coz u r unconsciously cheating not just the 2 guys but also Ur parents...
u r 4m a rajput family n as far as i know rajputs stand by their word...
2006-10-10 06:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luv is the second name of sincerity.......well dear...U R not Wrong But Keeping 2 relations at one time is Not right......try 2 choose one between them.....I think its better 4 u....u r Not showing sicereity 2 Ur Fiance.......This world is 2 short 2 Luv one person..........how can u luv 2 @ one time...n the only one possible way is 2 tell Ur Fiance abt Him.....that u hv friendship with him..if u really want 2 b sincere wid ur fiance......But u cant Luv 2 persons at one time............dont u feel so Odd when u ll Get married 2 Ur Fiance n u hv in Mind that u were not sincere wid ur fiance
2006-10-09 06:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've already answered your question if you said you can leave either one of them. You will destroy both relationships, probably at the same time, so you're going to need to do something, quickly. If you want to get married you have to leave the other man, if you don't want to get married you need to leave your fiance. It's as simple as that. You're playing a very dangerous game and you're showing no respect for yourself or anyone else. Maybe it's because of your immaturity but if you're old enough to get married you're old enough to do the right thing and being with two men is very wrong.
2006-10-09 06:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop the affair. It is simply not right. You are young and studying and engaged to be married. You should not make room for an affair with someone else. You can leave one of them. There's no such thing as can't.
2006-10-09 07:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Funny Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gal hui
ur a kid and ur saying that ur having an affair with 2 this sincierly bad b'coz u doesnt have knowledge about sex and love u shold not accept this type of thing's in ur reall life and also u said ur engaged that mean ur alredy first u concentrate on ur studies if ur not intrested isn studies think and found where u r intrested put a goal
goal and lead ur life happily.
that's wht i'm saying is left all these relation's lisren to ur parent's
2006-10-09 06:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by her_image18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your behavior isn't at all moral or orthodox.you are too young to marry,obviously.you are heading for a great fall and this behavior will kill your reputation in your community.every one has the ability to make choices and in most cases the problems we have ,we cause.your birthday 1&6=7, and that 7,is regarded as God's number and it is also the number of secrets.Be honest and stop satisfying your self at the expense of others.their are a lot of people who will be dissapointed by your selfihness. I know you are young and we all make mistakes and owning up to those mistakes takes courage.
2006-10-09 06:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up to your self - this situation is not going to last and then you will be alone and crying with out anyone. so fess up to your beloved and dump the other guy . what r you doing getting married at you age any way. what about you and your life. what do you what for yourself. do you want a careea> or to travel. surely you dont want to be tied to one person who you clealy can not love very much so soon in you life. make sure you are happy first then the right person will find you instead.
2006-10-09 07:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Snoopyk8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋