my partner and i are going for custerdy of his son but he wont let me go to court with him he says he doesnt want his ex to kick off but im not sure thats the real reason the last time they were at court they were caught in mc d together but he told me they werent then when my source asked him he said she followed him what should i do?
2006-10-08 23:04:16 · 12 answers · asked by chrissy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
do what you think to do
2006-10-08 23:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal practise for another partner to go to court with the parent of another child, it is possible for his ex to kick off but that is her right as a mother protecting her child. As for having a source, where you having him followed for reasons that you don't trust him. Stay at home and wait until he comes back with the decision of the court. he will properly need you more that if you were there. WB
2006-10-10 11:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punctuation please!! It's a very long sentence to read without a full stop or comma and if you think something is important enough to put a question on YA, at least read it first to make sure it makes sense!
I guess you should back off a little - for a start, it's your partner and his ex, not you and your ex. Secondly, there could be a million reasons why they were in McDonalds together, not least of which is their son's welfare. Your partner didn't admit to being with his ex because he knew you'd kick off yourself!
2006-10-09 02:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could apply to go on the Jeremy Kyle show!
Sorry, I couldn't resist. It sound as though you don't trust him as far as you could throw him. He's either lying to you or your "source" is lying to you or the ex wife is just a nutter who is fixated with him. Even so, why would she "kick off" if you went to the court? It all sounds very antiganistic. Not the sort of situation a judge is going to let a child into. My suggestion would be to sort out your relationship before you try to get custordy of a child. Children need stability and security not mistrust and accusational environmenmts. Please don't damage this child.
2006-10-08 23:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cazza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see his point of not wanting you there incase it causes a rift between you an the ex. However if you think that there might be something going on between them then i would insist on going, say you'll stay outside the court room and just be there for him when they've made the final decision. Show him that your being supportive though rather than checking up on him.
2006-10-08 23:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jo. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are going for custody, you need to be there. It won't look good to the judge if one of the proposed 'parents' isn't present at the hearing. Stand your ground. Besides, if she does kick off, it may push the result in your favour!!!
2006-10-08 23:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Emma W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what are they gonna do in Mc Donalds? Some people need their free time with ex's and some are trying to get back with their ex's. It's a pretty strong bond when there is a child involved. Step back if your not sure.
2006-10-08 23:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by l800sexaholic 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
actually this has nothing to do with you...it's his child...until he gets custody OR visiting rights you have no say in what he does...and no you should not be there, this is between him and his ex...and not you..it's best to stay away from the court incase she does kick off...this is about a child and not what the ex is gonna say if she sees you there....dont poke your nose in coz matters will get worse...
2006-10-08 23:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are both going for custody of the child, the court will expect you to be there so they can make the correct decision
2006-10-09 03:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by scoobybird2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let he finish his job alone,
dont disturb him, unless he ask you,
good luck
2006-10-08 23:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by lover 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋