ladies how would u feel, what would u do... i found txt messages of bfs fone?

Question

I found txt messages on b/fs fone, (yes I shouldnt have looked i feel bad but thats not the issue i dont think).

He went to the beach on the weekend, said i couldn't come because it was a boys day, then later said part of the reason I couldnt come he said was because he cant handle other guys seeing me in my bikinis, (we just got back together after breaking up 4 a month, we are trying to make it work). I was like yeah cool boys day, bikini things a bit over the top

The day after he went to the beach i found messages to about 3 other girls asking them to come, so I have no idea what's going on there. Im mad, do I tell him i went through his fone, I do think that's not the issueI think I will but what would you do, how would you feel?

Answer 1

I've been through this except mine was actually cheating on me. Going through someone's phone is a terrible thing, but sometimes the urge just gets to strong - the question is would your boyfriend tell you that other girls went if you asked him? Maybe drop the question into general conversation and if he says no, then is it worth being with him if he can lie about something litle like that.

I went through my ex-boyfriends phone (we'd broke up also and were trying to work things out) that's how i found out he was cheating on me.

The thing is if he can lie about this what's to stop he lying about bigger things.

I hope this helps - fee free to send me an email should you wanna chat - [e-mail]

Em x

Answer 2

I would confront him and tell him straight that I read his messages. Be honest with him if you really want to make this relationship work. Tell him that you checked the sms' because you feel that if you were trying to make this relationship work, there would be no secrets between you.

Ask him then about these girls, and don't ever let your boyfriend get jealous over you. If he did not want you to go because he did not want to see other guys looking at you wearing your bikinish, does he think it is fair on you to stay home while he goes to the beach looking at other girls in bikinis??

Communication is the key for every relationship to work... calm down and do not accuse him of cheating... just talk to him, but never forget the lies! Think about your relationship, maybe he does not want to make it work!

Answer 3

Very awkward difficulty!! what style of individual is your doorstep dad? perhaps you ought to talk with him and tell him you observed the messages and if he doesnt tell your mum... then you will!!?? however the possibility there is that if he knows you recognize he would grow to be extra valuable at hiding them! they definately dont appears like inoccent messages and that i thikn your mum has a stunning to renowned! no one ought to get mad at you for asking a query approximately some thing so intense! tell your mum you accidently observed some thing on his telephone which you do not understand the thank you to take it!.... tell her this is great if she has a glance and then your not responisble for a manner she reacts!... or in case you cant say it to her write an e mail then she would be ready to fake it in no way passed off if she lieks! doing it this type might in all possibility make it much less embarrassing on your mum! the quicker that this is taken care of out the less it is going to break her or the speedier this is resolved!!!

Answer 4

Its better if you'll talk to him openly but don't tell him yet what you have seen. Have a serious talk with him. tel him how much you love him and you can't afford to lose him. Tell him that its okay for you if he'll look to some other girls, you can understand it because you know that it's part of being human. but if he's in love to some other girl, that's another story. At that point you are willing to give up. "just tell me if your not in love with me anymore". i'll try to understand you.
by doing so you'll make him feel guilty. don't ever try to nag him as if you're his mom

Answer 5

i hang out with girls sometimes and dont invite my girlfriend, why? because if my girlfriend came it would be akward for my other friends cuz i dont want to make them watch me and my girlfriend makeout the whole time. maybe they are just friends, then again maybe hes not telling the truth. you are just gonna have to trust him until you get some real evidence, not a friend telling you he betrayed you, but you actually catching him in the act. otherwise, why mess up something thats good?

Answer 6

sweet hart... yep, it's your bad for going through his phone! always remember when you do things like that your asking a question that you really don't want to know the answer to. i did the same thing and it proved a point to me that he was cheating, but was i ready to deal with it? confront him about it, but remember that it most likely will blow up in your face. if you can handle knowing what you know and still be able to trust him about things then it is not even worth saying anything about!

Answer 7

i'd tell him that i went through his fone and found the txt then i would let him try and explain then i would dump his ass and never look back. i think you should do the same. he is obviously not worth it.

Answer 8

it doesnt have to be something that bad, try to stay positive until you are sure, maybe one of his friends borrowed his phone and sent text messages...if i were you, I'd casually ask him how was the boys days out and "so there were no girls, huh?", if he keeps on lying and denying, then you gotta face the truth and dump him...

Answer 9

i understand the feeling is terrible.. but i think if he really loves you he'll tell u the truth instead of u questioning him.. i'll try to ask some questions on how he spend his day there and wait for his answer. by then you'll know whether is he worth your love.

Answer 10

well i think u shld get to the bottom of things coz rite now i guess u feel cheated and angry but u r not too sure urself rite....

so why dun u ask him wat happened tt day just tell him yup i shldnt have gone true ur phone but i think u werent quite honest with me bout the other day! (try to be calm , try not to show tt u r angry)

if the 2 of u just got back togather and he is trying to fool around i suggest u get urseld another guy gal!!! coz i feel his not worth it....

good luck gal!!! ;)