So what are some ways to help us to relax the next time we try?
I know many of you are wondering if we are virgins. Yes, we are I am 24 and he is 25.
2006-10-08 22:03:06 · 12 answers · asked by lee-lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the good thing is that you are both in this together, so there is plenty of opportunity for fun.
First decide to have a shower together. Wash each other all over, with lots of lather, and get used to the nudity and the touching.
Then. start to gently touch each other around the erotic zones, until you both feel some arousement.
Don't be in a hurry. The first time might nit be a very exciting experience, but it is necessary to get to the second time.
Talk to each other about what you are feeling, what feels good and what doesn't feel good.
When sufficient arousal has taken place, he will be hard, and you will be wet.
Then lie down and make yourself available for him.
Help him by opening yourself up.
I'm sure everything will work out fine - it has for millions of others.
2006-10-08 22:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If both of you have waited all this time, and you have finally found the one you want to be with (congrats on that!) -- why not get married first? There is a sort of protection or umbrella that happens over love making between two people who are married. I was a virgin until I was married at 29 years old. Was it hard? Yes! Was it worth it? Yes! But it can also take a little while for all the anxieties to go away. If you can relax with each other (especially if you are married, like I said), you will get to just know and love each other, and things will begin to happen. There's really no rush... it's about loving and exploring and appreciating each other. May you find all you're looking for!!
2006-10-08 22:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by j-thun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, if you both really love each other, wait until you get married. Don't be a piece of meat. Value yourself and be an example to your future children. If you have sex before marriage you are saying that you can't control yourself and that you can't be trusted to be faithful to your husband. Which is why over 50% of marriages fail these days and countless more boyfriend/girlfriend relationships break apart......all because of false love. Anyone can say "I love you".....it means absolutely nothing if you can't back it up with actions (in this case, respect and patience). Ask any married woman whether she was happy at throwing their virginity away to the first loser who claimed they loved them.....virtually all of them will say NO, they weren't happy.
Real love comes from respecting and honoring each other in mind, spirit AND body. If there isn't these 2 things, then yes, get ready for some major problems in your relationship in the future.
Good day.
2006-10-08 22:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some KYjelly & hang on, if he is a virgin it wont last long. You can have some time to think of the feeling he shared with you then but Kser Rah. Its going to happen, best you get on with the pleasure of life before you get old or some thing shorter! Happy Daze
2006-10-08 22:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by devilinme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may possible that u r nervous coz u r a gal but if he is also nervours it is thinkable. And really I am wondering that u r vigin in 24, but any thing is possible here.
And there is no need to nervous just hug him and shower him kisses, and I sure then he will do all what u r looking for.
2006-10-08 22:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set it up like a date, maybe a movie at home, order some pizza, or go out or dinner, have a romantic dance, then make out alot, get to know eachothers bodies, and dont be afraid of it, your sharing eachothers bodies and this is something to gain from eachother, maybe take a bath before you do, make out in the dark, or with very few candles, so you can get to know eachother only by feeling eachother, if it gets uncomfortable, then get some lube and have a couple of drinks before you do.
2006-10-08 22:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by Blurred V 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well lee, first of all, do you know what is love?find out did you love him or you like him. it is normal for you to have sex and having lots of nervous at the first time. well make sure that your are really honest with him and so as him toward you. do not do sex in hurry you must enjoy it and do not put presure on him or let him do so on you. you must really talk and start from the very begening such as talk kiss and then have sex but make sure both of you use condon, aftar sex do not simply stop try to play with his hair or chest make him feel good while doing so he will hug you and you will feel loved to. good luck
2006-10-08 22:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mohd G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of u should do some "research" before u go ahead. Atmosphere is important and the rest should come naturally.
2006-10-08 22:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wait to expect your first time to be great it wont be!! if your wanting to wait till a special occasion get it over with now so it can be great then!!
2006-10-08 22:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don;t force yourselves just let you passion for each other take over it will happen you you are ready. in the meantime just keep Loving and caring for each other.
2006-10-08 22:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋