my parents told me that i must first finish my studies before entering in the relationship..they said that it can destruct my studies......but i think it s not true..... i dont know what to do..... help me...
2006-10-08 22:00:19 · 13 answers · asked by sempron_mitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your parents are right. You have the rest of your life to look for someone. Right NOW your number 1 priority is school and setting your future up for self-sufficency. Don't screw it up....you need to better organize your priorties first...better to succeed in school now than mess it up now and live with regret and fewer options when you're older. And going to school when you're older is HARDER than people realize....you won't have mommy and daddy to support you and you'll have to be working at the same time....not good at all.
When people are in their mid to late 20s, that's the best time to look for love, people tend to be more mature and know what they want. More likely to settle down instead of using and abusing (playing headgames) for crotch gratification. Love and respect yourself first, otherwise chances are people won't love and respect you.
Good day.
2006-10-08 22:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you from experience,
relationships are a HUGE distraction.
fun? yes
exiting? yes
time consuming? yes, more than you could imagine
worth it? it seems so at the time, but no.
there is nothing wrong with meeting someone and pursuing a relationship. Love is awesome... but if you are studying, me and many many many of my friends can tell you it is such a stupid idea to be in a new relationship while studying. it is distracting and time consuming, thought consuming... etc.
give your all to your studies, be friends till you finish, it will make it all the more exiting in the end, and you will have something to look forward to, almost like a reward. Studying is only a few years, love is a lifetime thing, which can wait. If the other person loves you, they will be willing to wait.
2006-10-08 22:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Yes, your parents are right. If you will be engaged while studying, you might (MIGHT) concentrate more in your relationship. In fact; it's either you will have more time with the person you will be engaged with or your studies. If you chose studies, that will subtract from relationship points. It's a miracle if you can balance both.
2006-10-08 22:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by angelo_khuletz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your parents are right. If you engage with a guy while you are still student, naturally your studeis will be thrown on back. You will have no time to give to your studies. If you become pregnant you will not in a position to complete your studies. It is thus true that you will not be in position to study with efficiency and with full devotion.
2006-10-08 22:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur parents are absolutely wrong. If a relationship destruct studies then tell them that u have a relation with them also and it may destruct ur studies too.
So according to me if u r in love with someone then go on. It never harm ur studies.
2006-10-08 22:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on the person. If you're one to get carried away by a relationship, then yeah, might want to avoid having one ifyou have studies to focus. but if you can handle both at the same time, why not? figure out who you are, how much you can handle. that's the only way you'll know
2006-10-08 22:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by High On Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually it greatly depends upon your personality. If you have self discipline and self control, you can engage to such relationship even while studying. but if you're easily been carried by your emotion, better wait until you finish your studies.
love interests won't perish, they are always somewhere there, whenever you are really ready
2006-10-08 22:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by hitherto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
complete you studies. you are young and there is plenty of time to date later. a relationship will rob you of valuable time. your parents are right.
2006-10-08 22:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by konala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did they tell you or advise you? Study first , sex later
2006-10-08 22:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by cremcharl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just think what is more important to you? a partner or studies?
2006-10-08 22:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋