I recently found out my boyfriend has been looking at loads of pics of girls half naked on his computer such as Jordan, he claims he doesn't even find her attractive but then why would he look? he constantly tells me he would never cheat, never looks at pics on the net and then i find them. he then lied about it and when i said i feel let down because he lied he claims il 'never find anyone like him'. I no he'd never cheat on me and is a great boyfriend, but this really really bothers me as I'm such an insecure person. Please help me
2006-10-08 21:56:04 · 20 answers · asked by Tara B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes and yes.
2006-10-08 21:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, if he is a red blooded male then it stands to reason that he likes to look at hot women. It really is your problem and not his. I am sorry I know that sounds a bit harsh but you do say that it is you thats insecure. It is this issure that you need to address first. Once you have overcome your feelings of insecurity then you won't worry about what he looks at on the net. As for the guy who says "if he looks at the pics on the net for sexual pleasure, then you're in trouble" - I say "Get a life saddo" . You know, some people just drive me crazy. What is wrong with a young guy looking at some sexy pics or porn on the net to get himself off? Oh yeah right I suppose you never knocked one out when you were alone? Grrr.....
Look honey, this has turned into a bit of a rant I know, but has your boyfriend ever given you reason to doubt him? Then trust in him, he only withheld the truth about looking at these pics on the net because he didn't want to upset you. How was it that you found out about him looking anyway? Checking up on him? This will only make things worse. You should feel lucky that you have a boyfriend who is obviously a normal and sexually healthy guy!
2006-10-09 05:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage vows says you need to love and honor... I don't remember anything that says you have to go blind. Males are visually stimulated. It is our nature. We like looking at attractive women. Some guys are just more obvious than others.
Insecure guys lie. They tell you what they think you want to hear, rather than the truth. Sometimes it could be the same. If they risk losing you by telling the truth, then the impulse is to lie. Maturity will change that. Eventually, he will tell you what is on his mind, because he knows that he needs to find someone that will accept him for what he is.
2006-10-09 05:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you never look at, say, Brad Pitt and think you wouldn't mind if his clothes accidently fall off?
And, of course, you have never told a lie in your life?
Does that make you a bedhopping low moraled slutbag, who drops her knickers for any man who stands still for long enough?
Cut the guy a break, or you'll drive him to cheat on you because he might as well get punished for something he has actually done!
2006-10-09 05:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO I don't believe all guys look at other girls...sadly MOST probably do. Only boys lie..real men will fess up to what they did and handle it however necessary. Did you ask him why he was looking? If he says he'd never cheat, then why look...that can only get you into trouble. I don't know how long you've been dating but be careful if he'll lie about something like this who knows what he might try next. He needs to be honest and realize that if he doesn't come clean and fix things, you won't be able to trust him.
2006-10-09 05:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by luckyko86 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
there is no such thing as a man that dosen't look at pictures of women. look at advertising billboards....sex sells
The answer to this problem is stop being so insecure....i know it sounds dramatic but you can do it with a little of telling yourself how good youare...
2006-10-09 04:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by brandit2001uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you know, with men like that.. they deserve to be dumped, as in like garbage. my bf, now my ex, was i thought the most faithful, honest, respectful and kindest guy i have ever met. i thought he's the guy i can marry.. that he's the "it". but it turned out to be that all was a joke! he lied and he cheated! all of the things he said were only words that should be burned. i don't like to generalize men but almost all of the guys i know did some lying and cheating to the back of their gfs. and so for men, you should understand that for us girls not to stereotype guys, you should tell your buddies and spread all over the world that girls doesn't deserve to be lied to and be cheated. it forces us to do the same with you guys. so don't be surprised if your gf or wife will lie and cheat to you as well.
let go of your bf, find someone you deserve. at least, maybe there's a minority of guys who still cares for what a woman can feel.
2006-10-09 05:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by misscoyote 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him he can look as long as he doesnt touch
tell him you dont mind him doing this and ask him why he felt the need to lie abou it
he has to compare u 2 something just to make sure youre the best there is
his reassuring comments should be enough for you to know that hes messing around
2006-10-09 05:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Katy Wald!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur right... u are insecure... if u said he was a "boy" then boys will b boys... but all males r alike... they have sexual urges... and............. need ways to deal w/ it... n these pix... they're ONLY half naked... it's not like you found 35 gig of porn on his comp! so y r u so worried? he juss needs sexual stimulation here and there... if you guys are together for a long time... you can ask him to stop cause it makes you feel uncomfortable a bit... im not guaranteeing that he will but ask him politely... remember these are only pix... if itz not on his comp.. it's in his head... he's not physically starin at a girl strip in front of him... but do ask him to stop... if he respects you then he would...
again... boys will be boys and that's wat they do
2006-10-09 05:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that all men and all women do lie. It's called being human.
And most men (not all) do like to look at pictures of attractive women. Look on the bright side: he's probably not gay!
2006-10-09 04:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by SteveT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It matter in someway that ur partner should not look any one else u. But if u have faith in ur partner and he also not going to break ur faith then if he looks all these then their is no harm if he looks some one on net or anywhere else.
Start believing.
Tara to do love is one thing, but to carry it different thing.
2006-10-09 05:01:16 · answer #11 · answered by Frank 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋