i got in to a car accident and i messed up my face a couple of months ago. a couple of weeks ago i had a really good friend tell me that he over heard my brother at a party making fun of me because of it! i fined it hard to even think about him as my brother any more because of how betrayed i feel over it. what should i do?
2006-10-08 21:49:51 · 8 answers · asked by SUNSHINE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At the moment it appears he is not only a bit immature but also disrespectful to you. Hopefully he will change his attitutde when he grows up. I probably doubt if he truely meant any harm to you, but rather trying to show off in front of his friends. Was alcohol also a contributing factor? Has he insulted you before? Again was it in front of his friends? You could possible discuss this issue directly to him (then again if he is immature it could make him continue). Importantly, don't you take it personally. Always remember you are beautiful. Who cares about scars? People that really matter in your life are those that will see you, not the scars.
All the best.
2006-10-08 22:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings,
First of all, make sure that he actually said what he said about you. Always get it straight from the horses mouth so to speak. :)
Ask your brother if it's true that "Someone told me that you were making fun of me when I got hurt"....ask him if that is true. If he admits it, ask him why...tell him that you would feel terrible if he were the one to have gotten hurt, that he is your brother and you love him. Tell him that you feel very hurt as a sister/brother (if he did say those things, that is).
Guys often try to shoot their mouths off when they're around other guys or girls thinking they're being a "big man"....if he really did say those things then he's pretty immature. But with love, you will make him see the error of his ways, if not now, one day soon when he realizes the hurt he caused you. Chances are, the people that he hangs around with as "friends" and tolerate or encourage his kind of behavior will most likely backstab or betray him in a similar way. Make sure to point that out to him when it DOES happens. :) But communicate lovingly with him...and be patient.
Good day.
2006-10-08 22:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that its true?
You SAY it was a "really good friend" but if she was such a good friend why would she just tell you something so hurtful? She doesn't sound like such a great friend to me.............
Next, friends come and go your whole life, your brother is your brother and he will still be your brother when you are both 97 years old! Even if he is a complete sh*it (like my sister) he is STILL your brother! First you OWE him the courtesy to at least confront him with the facts and listen to HIS side!
After that, write us back and let us know what the situation is NOW, I'd be very interested...........
2006-10-08 22:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The First World War started because people stopped talking to each other. Talk to him in a nonconfrontatinal manor and tell him what you heard. Get his side of it. Give him a chance to explain, and or apologize, before you do something you may later regret.
2006-10-08 22:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your brother about it find out why he did it. Remember you are morethan a face and it takes morethan beauty for you to get what you want.
2006-10-08 23:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by svt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't condemn him before you have a good talk and give him a chance to explain
2006-10-08 21:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by webby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be a woman, and let it be, their is an old saying; what goes around, comes around. he will get his,
2006-10-08 21:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it. you have an ugly, rotten face. of course your brother made fun of you. suck it up.
2006-10-08 21:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by jack b 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋