I was once hurt by a special girl whom i dont care for any more (8yrs ago). But i cant seem to love the ones im with fully like i loved back then. Im 30 yrs old single full time father (good looking i might add) with a great job, have my choice on who i want, but get with them and lose intrest immediatley. Just wondering how to trust and love someone? This is a seroius question!!!!
2006-10-08 21:37:16 · 9 answers · asked by tom b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have one son he is 5.
Really im content with him and I.
Most women you cannot say "i just wanna date see what's out there" know what i meen?
2006-10-08 22:18:53 · update #1
Pray to God, to send a special person to you.
2006-10-13 14:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess my tip would be to stop comparing the ones you date now to the girl you dated 8 years ago. You felt it was important enough to mention this 8yrs ago girlfriend in your question so she must have meant something to you, but it really doesn't pay to compare people because everyone is different in some way - whether it be in their laughter to what side they like to sleep at night.
How active of a social life do you have? You mention you are a full-time father with a job you like, but you don't mention how often you get out to spend time with other adults just for fun. Maybe you just need to get used to hanging out with people for fun (to ease you into trusting people/women) and put the active dating on the backburner. When you get to know women as friends, sometimes some might strike you as a possible love interest (and since you've been frineds you know more about them than a random person ^.~) And if they don't strike you as an interest, then at least you have a friend to hang out with.
2006-10-09 04:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by randomnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I notice so many things in your problem. You have a specific definations of a lover and all the woman you date dont quite fit the specifications. Also, Its like you are comparing them with someone, Bro, People are not to be comapared.
The big problem here though is your distrust with women. You cant really trust them with you life and as a result that turns you off. I suggest you try to socialize more with woman, have them as friends, that is where that trust is natured. After that then you can go back to dating. I suppose you know what is good for you, so please do the right thing.
Good luck
2006-10-09 05:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by boago d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need counselling to overcome your trust issues from being hurt long ago. Or maybe you're not getting into the relationships because they're not right for you and you know that on some level. Sometimes you just don't feel it and love is something you feel. A relationship may look good on paper but the spark is amiss at times and in that situation it just won't work out no matter what. Love is not something we choose, it chooses us.
2006-10-09 04:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by FrasierFan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can learn trust and love someone by (1) accepting that you have been emotionally hurt in the past and you are willing to get hurt in the future (2) letting go of the fear you have because fear restricts your action with others. I hope this would help you..enjoy life dont be afraid to trust and love again like before.:)
2006-10-09 04:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Hime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie only time can help and maybe you have to give it time for the right girl to come along if your looking STOP. just relax your only thirty you have your whole life ahead of you. and if you have children and a full time job maye you need some alone time for your self. i am sure you love your kids very very much but some times you need to get out and still have fun. your looking to hard. relax hun you'll find someone
2006-10-09 04:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by boo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should stop trying to look for someone and let them come to you. you seem to be going after the girls that you have no interest in. you need to change your approach.
2006-10-09 04:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a compatibility problem the ones your finding are not compatible to where you are in your life and what you need
2006-10-09 04:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can start with trying to trust other people,
aspecally a woman.
if you can't,
that's good to called your psyciater,ok?
coz i think,
you have a serious problem......
good luck man......
2006-10-09 04:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by maryamok_haris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋