ok long story short....me and this girl started off to a fast start....and now she tells me she needs time...
what am i suppose to do...
i do everything a girl ask for...
im super nice and pretty much do anything for her....
i call her in the morning to make sure she is up and not late for class, to tell her goodmorning, and to have a nice day!
i dont tell her that she is hot, but that she pretty and "linda"
i tell her that my number one goal is not to disrespect her in anyway.
i make her laugh so that life isnt boring...
i always buy....
i make her smile when she is down.....
i kiss her forehead so that she feels special...
and her hand to let her know that i care...
i cuddle with her when she is cold....
i help her wih everything
i tell her that I respect whatever decision she makes..
i tell her that I will never make her do anything...sexual and not non sexual...lol.....i open her door...im a gentlemen to her....and so much more....what am I doing wrong?...what do I do? Do I wait?
2006-10-08 21:26:25 · 16 answers · asked by El 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok you are doing a lot of great things there, but at some point a person has to do things for themselves. Let her get herself off to school, if she is late then there is a consequence she has to accept. Only help her when she asks you to, I think you're great to be doing this stuff but it all may well be crowding her. Stay a little aloof, you know, a little cool so she gets some of the work in this relationship, a relationship is give and take on both sides. I wish you the best of luck, you aren't doing anything wrong just a bit too much of it.
2006-10-08 21:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this whole Mr. nice guy aint gonna cut you a slice. Look, you are not being yourself man, that is what you are doing wrong. You are living up to her expectations and that is totally wrong.
She can tell that you are not yourself and that you are trying to impress her, so she knows that the ball is in her court. She can do whatever and you will follow. She can even dump you and you will claim to understand because you still want to impress her.
Dude, tell you what, stop being Mr. nice guy here. Stop trying to impress the lady, She is already with you, what you need to do is make sure you dont screw up. There are lots of things that contribute to the relationship, and they include the openness between you two. Pretending is not being open. \
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Make sure you stop the 'Mr nice Guy" thing
2006-10-09 04:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by boago d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN BOY, your not doing anything wrong!
Don't think like that when you do all this stuff.
YES, you wait! Give her that time she asked for!
It's probably (almost deffinetly sure) that you didn't do anything wrong.
She may feel overwhelmed and maybe you give her TOO much!
That IS possible. Im 27, female and I'v had guys do all that good stuff to me too, but when it's ALL the time, over and over, I sorta want space and I want to feel independant, ya know?
So, just give her, her time. Step back just a little.
When she's down, ASK her if she wants cuddling or comfort!
When she needs help, ASK her if you may help her!
If she seems distant, ASK her if you are being too close.
Girls like it when guys ASK....then just DO, they like it when guys, JUST KNOW but then girls want the guys to MIND READ them and leave them alone.......just for a while for space......cause they don't want to flat out say it. It's hard telling someone that you need time. (time for what?) <<---DON'T ASK, just tell her, "ok, let me know if I can do anything!" She'll appreciate that very much!
Good luck!
2006-10-09 04:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a guy of every girls dream dear. there is nothing wrong with you so dont think there is. has she recently gotten out of a relationship???? maybe shes a bit confussed or maybe there could be another guy and she doesnt know who to choose. if she says she needs time maybe just back off a little. try not to call her maybe let her call you. then she'll see what you actually do for her. give her a little space but still care for her maybe only talk once in 2 days. the best thing to do is just back off a little. give her space to see the open door to your love.
2006-10-09 04:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a little bit to nice, it depends a little in what age you are but if you are young maybe she can't appreciate it to the fullest. Maybe you should make her deserve what you have to give? Remember that girls often falls for bad boys for a reason. She will also want to feel that you need her and you have to have your own life as well if you are getting to dependent of here then she will feel like she looses her freedom and must! be with you and that's a big turn of. We want a man in our life e.g. a night in shining armour not a slave or a baby, well I would like that as well but not in my man :-)
2006-10-09 04:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fast start and then all the ideal goodies that a girl could ask for? It's her problem not yours.
Wait? Did she say go away? She needs 'time' away or what? You didnt make that clear. Did you ask her a question? I dont understand.
2006-10-09 04:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds very nice but maybe you're smothering her. Sometimes people don't like to be called every morning and have so much attention paid to them. Back off, give her time and space and if it's meant to happen, it will.
2006-10-09 04:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAy be ur doing every thing....make her also do a few things for u an dont let it be a one sided relation....
2006-10-09 04:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by nash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing everything right is wrong! And you told her you would respect whatever decision she makes.....I think you fail.
2006-10-09 04:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's HER body...not your's...she needs time. If you were expecting something in return for doing all you've done you're dating for all the wrong reasons...I suggest paying a prostitute rather than waste your precious time and money on girls who aren't easy,
2006-10-09 04:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋