What to do if you want to have another child and your husband doesnt?

Question

See I am only 25 and we have 2 kids already, but I also and having a lot of female problems such as endomitriosis, and lots of cycts. I want to have another one now because I dont know if I will be able to have a chance in the future. My husband says no, we have a boy and a girl and he is done. HELP!

Answer 1

tell him your going off birth control and if he doesnt want any more kids he had better have a vasectomy. and explain to him that he can always get some one pregant but your time runs out in your late 30s

Answer 2

Sounds like a marital problem...DIVORCE vs CHILD.....if your a Professional Home Maker and Mom and HE (the hubby) is the PROVIDER and a good one...HONEY you better hold on tight, forget another child cuz you are going to have a hard time raising 3 kids alone....Compromise by BOTH spouses is usually what makes a marriage work...You were blessed with two children, and of opposite sex, be THANKFUL. You will always have the maternal instinct whether you are 25 or 80 (so says Mom).

Answer 3

( I am 26) Because of those cysts my Dr. told me that I wasn't be able to have a baby.Well I was blessed with one.Mothers instincts calling me I can feel it's time for one more baby. I'm also scared that If I ( we) decide to have a baby later (this is what my husband want)...maybe that will be too late than. My cyst growing back after surgery and I feel like time is running out.Well I did go to my Dr. and I talked to him about it.And he'll consult it with my husband.He kinda give him idea that later maybe will be worst with my sickness and that he'll think that now is kinda the best time.Guess what my husband is checking in calender my ovulating days and he's pulling me to bed.He said he realize that we can not put out on later something so important like kids.

Answer 4

Respect his feelings. Don't try to manipulate him. Imagine if he tried to manipulate you into aborting your children? It's just plain wrong.

Maybe you can talk to him about adopting children in the future. There are so many unwanted, unloved, uncared for, abused and starving children. There's no need to keep producing your own. Your genetics are not that special.

Answer 5

The world is suffering from overpopulation, anything more than 2 kids is absolutely irresponsible in this day and age unless the 2nd happens to be twins. Tie the tubes.

Answer 6

A baby is not something that should be forced on an unwilling recipient - if he doesn't want a baby - respect his wishes. I feel for your situation, I really do - but you guys really need to be talking this through together.

Answer 7

You should have a heart to heart with him and express your concerns as well as your feelings on the subject. I wouldn't suggest falling pregnant without him knowing as this could cause major problems with your marriage as well as resentment towards the baby.

Answer 8

U have to talk with him .. this kind of decisions can't be taken with one side .. u have to talk with him till one of u convince the other of his point of view .. and the perfect way to discuss this kind of subjects is by talking honestly and strait forward without any kind of tension or nervous .. keep talking with him till u BOTH decide

NEVER EVER do any thing behind his back

Answer 9

Hi Hun...Im in the EXACT same position......
I have two solutions - not sure if they are going to work though....
PRAY & PERSEVERE until the cows come home!!!!!
Its something I want more than you know and I already have 2 boys and a baby girl.....good luck hun, I hope he learns to compromise. xx

Answer 10

Your man sounds stubborn..... u will be the one who does all of the work ..... why would he say no..... if u can not resolve this ..... consider tricking him (assuming u still have sex) by stopping birth control, poking holes in the condom, etc... or just tell him u want a baby, (you will probably be doing all of the extra work anyway) if its not by him u will find someone else to inpregnate u ......