what would you do if you was in my shoes??

Question

ihave recently moved to australia. i have been heer for the past 3 months! all i tihnk about is bein back home. i would happily go home but i do not what to do cause i dont wann leave my parents at the same time i have ma sister back in the uk and a niece and another niece on the way?? i also have a friend in the uk that fell pregnant just before i came out over here! and i feel i should be there for her with everything! i also have a lad that i really like and he likes me! but i just dont no what to do whether to move back to the uk or stick at it here and try and start a new life here!! I'm trying to make friends over here but its hard?? i have a job. but all i want to do is go home, but i feel really bad on my parents as it aint chea to move to another country! i have a friend comin out in a few weeks to help me settle in and make friends but i'm thinking of going back home with her when she goes home in a few months time!! what do i do??

the lad i like is in the uk!!this probably sounds daft but i will listen to music that i always listened to with my friends and it makes me upset and cry, if i speak to any of my friends on the phone i get upset after talkin to them.

Answer 1

Awww honey you should give your self time I think,I no it cant be easy but it will take a long time! Try maybe six months and if you feel the same then maybe come back for a month and see how you feel!

Answer 2

Hi Hon, I moved to Australia 1 year ago and I know it is tough. Why did youscome here in the first place? Try to remember why. I miss all my folks like mad, but financially I am better off here (SO much better off than in the UK!) and the folks might even retire here with me. Good friends will follow and keep in touch. You can't be there for everyone - you have to live your own life and the people who love you know that. I can only tell you what I decided - I said I would give it 4 years here, then go back to the UK if I still wanted to - give yourself a time frame and give Oz a try - otherwise you might wish you had tried harder and wonder if you did the right thing if you give up here too quickly.

Answer 3

I think you should give yourself more time to settle, ok you are a long way from some of your family and friends but the last I heard they had telephones and internet in Australia! The good points are you can speak the language, the weathers beautiful and you have a job ask your friend to keep you updated on her pregnancy. It takes a lot of courage to take the plunge and move away from what you have known all your life if you are still not happy in another three months then you should think of going back then but you have to give it time.

I moved to Spain over a year ago now I couldn’t speak the language (I’m still struggling) I brought four children with me and left one of my children in the UK (he’s 18 and at collage) I had loads of barriers put in front of me, paperwork that I couldn’t read school letters etc but I am determined to stay put for the sake of my and my children’s futures.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Answer 4

I was in the same position when I was 16 and my mum wanted to go back to her native Germany. I think you shoud stay and give it a chance. You need to be there at least a year realistically to adapt to a totally different way of life. Eventually you start meeting people and doing things and suddenly it will become fun. You can go back home anytime.....its not going anywhere but you have been given a chance that many others would die for so really,stay and don't throw it away !!!

All the best !!!

Answer 5

nothings ever easy in life
moving house to another past of the planet is not easy, yes of cos, but hang in there, you're just home sick and need time to settle in to ur new environment. GO OUT. MAKE SOME FRENS. give it a chance. your parents surely must have a good and valid reason for making such a move. give it another 3-6 months and if you still cannot fit in, only den decide again. best of luck. hope you do settle in :)

Answer 6

Bless you....it must be tough. Why don't you try and stick it out for a bit longer. Home is going nowhere, it will still be there for you to fly back to in a few months if you still want to. I emigrated a few years ago, on my own. I knew no-one and for the first 6 months i found it really difficult....but now...love it!!!

Answer 7

hey,

Moving to a new country takes time to adjust, you really do need to give it a chance, Australia is a great country, I live in tassie.
What I'd recomend to you is that you try to socolise with your colleuges outside of work, go to the pub for a drink or something and maybe ask on here for some mates, ones in aus that you can acctually see sometimes.

If you would like me to be your friend dont be afraid to email me at [e-mail]

hope this helps.

Mitch
Launceston, Tas

Answer 8

Keep contact with your sister, and all the other UK friends, stay there with your parent's in australia, hang out with the lad, stay in australia, and then introduce all your friends on the internet so you can keep contact once again, and continue life in Australia.

Answer 9

Follow your heart.
There's no way i would leave the UK, my brother emigrated to Australia 10 years ago and hasn't looked back. Been to visit him once, and there's no way on earth i would do that journey again.

Answer 10

BEING IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY WOULD MAKE ANYONE HOME SICK. BUT GIVE IT A CHANCE, GET OUT, SOCIALISE, TRY AND MAKE NEW FRIENDS. YOUR LONELY BECAUSE YOU ARE IN NEW SURROUNDINGS, STICK AT IT. MY NEPHEW MOVED TO NEW ZEALAND A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO, HE STUCK IT OUT AND IS NOW A FIREMAN THERE AND IS GETTING MARRIED LATER THIS MONTH. AS FOR THE BOY YOU LIKE, WELL AS THEY SAY "PLENTY MORE FISH IN THE SEA"