i lost my b/f of about 4 years off and on, because i just cant handle that he has a past with all these other girls and more and more i keep fineding out things about it that he did not tell me. but i love him and i dont want to let him go. what should i do?
2006-10-08 21:03:50 · 11 answers · asked by SUNSHINE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men don't like jealousy lady. once you learn how to stop being Jealousy. He May come back untill then you have no change.
2006-10-08 21:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude, you need to grow up. Everyone has a past of some description and you are becoming history if you keep acting like this. Being green with envy is unattractive and very insecure. Why do you need him so bad? Why cant you handle who he was before he met you? I think he should move on and hopefully you will learn a big lesson and not cling on so hard to the next man.
2006-10-08 21:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about his sexual past, it's not any of your concern what he did in the past as long as he doesn't have any diseases to pass to you. Talking about your sexual past will spell certain disaster to a relationship because one person will always feel inadequate afterwards and gets angry, then resents the experienced one for their experience. Be happy there were things he didn't tell you, obviously he told you too much since you say you can't handle what you do know. There's a possibility you won't be able to handle it unless you went out and brought yourself to his level and that is a stupid idea. If he is still friends with his past girls I wouldn't waste time with him. That in itself is another disaster waiting to claim your relationship. Unless you can be secure that you don't know everything about his past he is obviously a guy to which you will never feel like you measure up and you should move on.
2006-10-08 21:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by FrasierFan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the off and on comment means that you arn't mature enough to be in this relationship or that no way it can work.
A person can deeply love someone....but there are circumstances that stand in the way. Sounds like you two don't have enough to hold you together.
Depending on your age, a guy can't totally telll a woman anything.
If this guy truely loves you...and doesn't give you any reason to be jealous in present. If you can't deal with his past then you never will. Time to let go and realize that everyone has a past.
2006-10-08 21:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past, if you don't want to let him go, don't. Maybe he's just uncomfortable describing old relationships with his current relationship. Besides, why would you be jealous of his GF in the past, when your his GF now? For all you know, they could be sobbing or just looking down upon the relationship and being jealous of you.
2006-10-08 21:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Gabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't handle it - don't do it= it would be torture for you and him= find out about a guy before you get so involved it will hurt to get out of the relationship=that is another reason to wait until marriage= D
2006-10-08 21:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont u just close the book and find the another one? i know its gonna be hard and stuff but for ur own good find the one that is true to u and satisfies u and doesnt hide things...if u had on and off 4 years i see no future, be wise
2006-10-08 21:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is lose your crazy obsession with him being all yours! You can never be all he could ever want.
I think you don't love him, because love is not a manic, jealous reaction to someone.
2006-10-08 21:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well.. tell him you want a fresh start and you're sorry about what happend in the past.. after that try to be not so jealous any more.. i know it's gonna be hard.. but try to live with it..
2006-10-08 23:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by wolv3r!n3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey it's time to learn your lesson and get a new boyfriend and then make sure you don't make the same mistake you make with the previous ones, and make sure the next one will be better that the old one!
2006-10-08 21:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋