My wife has not worked in 5 years since we were married. She said that she wanted to go to work to help out. Well since we just bought a new house and got into a $720 dollar mortgage payment I said ok. I could use the help but did not let her know that. Since she went to work, we have become distant, we do not have sex, do not talk except for hello and goodbye, and how much did you make this week. I don't know what happened. I thought it might be a little much on here working and being pregenant, so I tried to talk to her and tell her to quit and she said no nothing was wrong. I think something is wrong can any women help me with what is going on here.
2006-10-08 20:52:52 · 7 answers · asked by Daryl C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Something is definitely wrong. Your wife is doing what we women often do, and we should get slapped over the wrists for it! As far as she is concerned, the problem is staring you in the face, and she "shouldn't have to tell you".
You can either try and work it out for yourself, or sit her down and say, "honey, I know there's something wrong. Maybe I should be able to work it out for myself, but I'm just a dumb male and I can't. Please tell me what I can do to help you, now you're working."
Are you doing your fair share of the household chores now? She obviously can't do as much as she used to, so you need to take it on. If you're not sure what you can do, ask her.
I know you don't have much money, but maybe you could take her out to dinner occasionally so she doesn't have to cook. Think back to the things you used to do when you dated, and see if you can fit some of those activities into your week.
Is she showing? She may think her body is ugly, that's why she's avoiding intimacy. You need to reassure her.
Good luck!
2006-10-08 21:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a proper talk with her. If you're not having sex something is seriously wrong. (Though it's possible she's depressed, that puts people off sex, also she's pregnant!) Sometimes a man is not emotionally close to his wife, but still expects her to be interested in sex. That doesn't work for a lot of women. You have to appreciate her and treat her with love not just in the bedroom but in her daily life. If your wife can talk to you about anything without you being critical (or "The Boss") you wil have an emotionally close relationship. Being pregnant could have a lot to do with it, she may be tired, carrying a baby can be very tiring. Make sure she eats and sleeps properly.
You didn't say how long this has been going on for. If it's just a few weeks it may settle down as she gets used to working outside the home.
Maybe someone at work is making her feel more of a woman than you do! :) But don't jump to that conclusion, there could be a heap of reasons.
If the problem continues long-term, try to get her to go with you to a marriage guidance counsellor. You BOTH need to go or it doesn't work! Good luck.
2006-10-09 04:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm could it be that maybe your wife is tired and busy??? I mean it sounds to me that since she started working you guys don't see eachother as much so that could be one thing. Also if she hasn't worked in 5 years then maybe she is getting use to working all over again. I hope this helps.
2006-10-09 03:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Wondering 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our hormones go nuts when we are with child. Perhaps this is what you are seeing. Perhaps you should try asking her to quit instead of telling her. Be open and honest telling her how you feel. Your lives are about ready to really change so perhaps she is feeling some concern over this also.
Congrats on the baby
2006-10-09 12:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by doicu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is not satisfied with her life, maybe she is waiting for you to do something, try to remember what she liked when u guys were dating make a surprise, well if that doesnt help then she has probolems....have u tried having ex with her? if she doesnt want then maybe she has someone else or an illness? Sorry but try to explain her that it is killing u
2006-10-09 03:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually u can ask her to find a better job...vch is compatible vth ur timings..
so tht u ppl can spnd sometime together..
this shud wrk out...
2006-10-09 03:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is something sharing respondibilities, sharing finance, sharing affection...., burden should not put on one shoulder only, should be equal
2006-10-09 05:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋