I'm 18 and I never had a boyfriend..never been on a date.I think I'm not ugly at all. there are many people that said I was pretty. I'm nice and funny too! Sometimes I just sit and wonder if anything is wrong with me?!? Even my sister who is 15 have a boyfriend! :[ Seriously what's wrongggg with me? When will I find the right person?
2006-10-08 20:41:32 · 18 answers · asked by lindaalicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with you. Let me say it again, there is nothing wrong with you. You need to repeat that to yourself often and until you believe it.
First do not compare yourself to your sister or anyone else for that matter. You are your own unique individual person. There is someone out there who will fall in love with you because you are you. That being said, you are still wondering, "Where's the beef!"
Well, as a good ole country girl from South Texas, I guess you could say that I have been one my fair share of cattle drives (no offense guys but fair is fair, if we are going to be chicks and all). No but seriously, there are some techniques that you can use to up your chances of finding Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now at least. Let's see if I can help you out.
Each of us gives off unspoken body language that others pick up on. Sometimes we can appear to be too eager, unapproachable, taken, available, friendly, open. Ask yourself if when you go out, do you cross your arms over your chest? Do you have a hard time making eye contact with men? Do you find it difficult to talk to guys?
Okay, nothing ventured nothing gained, right? You can meet a guy anywhere and I mean anywhere. Take the grocery store for example: go to the meat department, look over the meat. If you see a guy that you might be interested in, walk up to him gently pace your hand on his arm or shoulder and ask if he can help you (guys love to come to the aid of a woman in need) Tell him that you want to grill something and you have never done it before (grilling another guy territory thing and he will have something to say about it). He'll show you the cut of meat that he thinks you should cook. Then ask him how you should cook it. (now you have a full fledged conversation going)laugh and flip your hair over your shoulder. Lean in close to him while he is talking and seem very interested in anything he has to say. Touch his forearm with your hand and gently squeeze as you tell him that it sounds really delicious and that you can't wait to try it. Tell him thank you so much that he has really helped you out. Turn to go and then turn back and smile and say "I wish there was some way that I could thank you for your help. Then take a pen out and take his hand in yours and while you are writing your name and number on his palm, say "My name is .... here is my number, call me and we'll get together for a drink or better yet, we can grill something together." Smile while biting a small portion of your lower lip, look him right in his eyes, turn and walk away.
If you are in a bookstore, approach a guy and ask him if he has read any good books lately and ask him to suggest one. Use the same body language as above. You can write your name and number on a sheet of paper.
If you are at a club, go ask him to dance or buy him a drink and send your name over with the waitress when she delivers it. If you are sitting next to him, gently push your leg into his and rest it there or brush his leg with your hand. Ask him questions about himself and lean in slightly and pay attention to what he says. You may have to ask specific questions about what he is saying to keep him talking.
Have fun and flirt! There is nothing wrong with good old fashioned flirting and it's fun. Just remember, stay true to yourself and your morals. Flirting does not mean being loose. And remember there is nothing wrong with approaching a guy, some of them are shy and don't like taking the risk of being turned down. Don't get discouraged and at first if you don't succeed, try and try again.
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Happy hunting and email me and let me know how it goes.
2006-10-08 21:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by kim 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of reasons. Maybe you come across as very self-confident and pretty, and boys don't think they are good enough for you. It will happen.
I was like you when I was young, I would go out with my friends, they would all meet boys and I would go home on my own. Then one night I met a boy, and we ended up getting married! So you see, it will turn out right in the end.
2006-10-09 04:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't ask yourself what it wrong with you. That portrays you to be insecure and self concious. You should try going out with a group of your girl friends to a club or something like that so theres no real pressure to meet guys. Just go for it. The worst thing that can happen is you won't meet someone, and who cares just try again. Good things are worth waiting for :)
2006-10-09 03:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by ..plumeria..princess.. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You like Italian food??? ;)
Ok seriously, nothing wrong with you. Maybe you're just too picky? Don't sit and wonder, if you're too intimidated to talk to people in a nightclub, try online dating. Lots of nice guys there, too.
But before you do anything you gotta cheer up babe :)
2006-10-09 04:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by johnpoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be pressured by society's so-called "norms". Just be patient, don't rush. Enjoy being single while you still can. There's nothing wrong with you, just hang in there. Never jump into a relationship for the wrong reasons. "Mr. Right" will come before you know it, you'll see. ;-)
2006-10-09 03:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Damn OK first you say when will you find the right person? you just want to date someone not marry him whit this im not saying that you should go out whit any idiot but if you like someone you should try approaching that person dont throw yourself at that person but you know a sign or something come on girl you are 18 you need to go out whit somebody. Then you will look for the RIGHT person.
2006-10-09 03:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by ELGATO 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
patience is a virtue, the right guy probably hasnt come across you yet.....just wait till you find the right guy for you. If you have AIM my sn is :aznfool2l4, and email is : greentoad915@yahoo.com. If thats you in the pic I think you're really pretty ;)
2006-10-09 04:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Elusive ()Ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your time is yet to come, please wait patiently for it. You and your sister were not created the same day. Don't say you want to be like other people and then rush into it which you will later regret. Take time and the right guy for you will come.
2006-10-09 04:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your looks and physical appearance because that is the first thing the boys notice in a girl.If you see a good looking guy just say hi to him and let your looks do the rest.
Ask your sisters or friends who have boyfriends.
2006-10-09 03:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am 24 yrs old...........i don't think anything is wrong with me. There is a time for everything, so our time will come soon in the meantime take the time to plan what you want to do in life. God bless
2006-10-09 03:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by tani n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋