How do you dump a guy who refuses to break up with you?
Have tried but the guy wants to know why he is being dumped. I have tried to answer that question with every ans imaginable. He is a good friend, but how do i tell em that it wont work out? I have tried to tell him that i am with two other people but he still refuses to break up with me. i do not want to hurt his feelings. HELP
2006-10-08 20:26:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are going to have to break his heart if you truly want it to be over. You may have to get a bit mean.
2006-10-08 20:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by jjuneified 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you do it he probably isn't going to be you friend after you break up with him. So just do it, stick to your guns don't take no for an answer. If he doesn't get the clue then ignore him and be a *****. After he understands then approach him and tell him that you are soory, and still want to be freinds. If he can't handle that, then you learned a lesson on why not to date friends, and if he is ok with it then all is good.
2006-10-08 20:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no good breakups someone will feel it this is how we learn by our mistakes you need to break up with him your the one who wants out you tell him he is a great guy but... you do not nor will you ever love him the way he deserves you will not be friends at least not right away so you must be strong and have no contact with him no friendly hello calls this will help him to move on faster and give you both a Chance to find happiness. good luck
2006-10-08 20:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by i can help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem, cut the poor guy out of your life, do not answer the phone, the door, the instant message, or have any contact with him, He will get the message, And you think you are not hurting his feelings now? every time you speak to him he thinks you still care, STOP
2006-10-08 20:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will still hurt his feelings in either way if you want to break up with him. so i think that you just have to say what you really feel. if you don't love him anymore, tell him. "i don't love you anymore, find someone else who can love you better than i do. it's not working. I'm sorry." it's rude but it's a brutal honesty. getting him hurt will push himself away from you. just don't expect to be friends with him anymore. because telling him that he's a good friend will still give hopes to himself of not letting you go. he'll still think that he's better of as your bf.
2006-10-08 20:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by misscoyote 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Get it clear about this.. no matter what reason you give or how you do it, he is still going to get heart broken.
I think there can be no way to break up with him without him feeling that way, since he is v. adamant about going on.
So, you have to decide. do you REALLY want to call it quits? If so, you'd need to take "nasty" measure, not to really hurt him..but just to get it clear to him that its the end.
For e.g. you can ask a good friend (guy friend) to help you out, pretending to be your bf. Make sure your good guy friend knows what is going on first.
Danger about this... the guy you want to dumped might get furios instead of heartbroken. he might instead give you bad names to other ppl. Just be careful about this, ya?
Rgds.
2006-10-08 20:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by arevoir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not realistic to end a relationship without someone's feelings being hurt. Get over that. Be simple, firm and direct, and a little bit cold if necessary. "I'm no longer interested in a relationship with you, it's over."
And continue on with your life, see other people, or whatever, regardless of wether he accepts it or not. You can't put your life on hold because he is in denial, he'll figure it out eventually.
2006-10-08 20:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can u not hurt a guy who likes you when breaking up with him?????
Just sit him down say I am breaking up with you dont contact me or come around to my house for a while (being 5 - 18 months). Dont contact him and if he tries to contact you cut it off immediately. Get hard hun.
2006-10-08 20:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but in order to get this guy to understand. I am afraid the only way may be to hurt his feelings.
Trying telling him something like. Look I want to be your friend, but I have made it clear that I do not want to be your girl friend. If you can not understand that, then maybe we shouldn't even be friends.
Sorry that is all I can think of.
2006-10-08 20:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight
"Joe we need to talk, I'm sorry this relation isnt working out for me.."
"Why?"
"I dont feel that [reason]" (Insert your reason line here)
"Oh ok"
"I hope that we still can be friends you know... :)"
lol sounds like a cheesy movie script, but you gotta just tell him straight, just give him the big blow and then try to soften it by asking him to still be your friend and such and such..
2006-10-08 20:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Shadowfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋