is there a shield around me that people cant approach me? i dont understand
2006-10-08 19:52:04 · 19 answers · asked by Friendless Wonders 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You may seem mean, or stuck up or may not smile a lot. Just think of the things that would make you think twice about going up and talking to someone.
2006-10-08 19:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Diamonds_4Ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People used to say that to me. People thought I was a snob & looked intimidating when really I was just shy. I had people tell me that I looked angry or wasn't smiling (meanwhile no one else was smiling either so why pick on me?!) Perhaps you are shy & it just comes across as being aloof or antisocial. Body language (crossed arms, frowning, looking away from people) may have something to do with it. You could experiment with smiling more. Personally I think people are silly! Who cares what they think right? Or maybe there is an invisible shield around you. Or maybe you're wearing a t-shirt or a tattoo that says "Get lost!" or "If you can read this, you're too close!" I don't know!
:)
2006-10-09 04:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your demeanor, body language, a superior attitude, not open and friendly making others afraid to approach u for fear of rejection.In reality, u may be a shy person with insecurities that come across as unapproachable. Try listening to people around u, smile and join in the conversation when u feel comfortable with the subject being discussed. It takes effort to come out of ur shell, but the rewards are great. The more u do it, the easier it gets. Good luck.
2006-10-09 03:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. there can be an Invissible shield made by UR charecter,appearance,way of talking/behaveor around U... That might be preventing other people's mind from approaching U...
Change tht shield as much as U can, U'll be more approachable 2 others..
Regards..
2006-10-09 02:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you what this means, because I am well aware that I am not approachable. People have called me abrasive. I am pretty, well off, and smart (but not stuck up at all, I mean it) but I have the biggest heart in the world and keep getting crapped on, so now, I don't even want to meet whomever is around, because it saves me time and energy. Yup, I'm lonely, but I'm not sad or getting hurt anymore!
2006-10-09 03:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they mean that you don't make enough small-talk with people around you.
When you are silent too much, then people around you find it difficult to judge whether you are in a good mood and whether their encounter with you is likely to go well or not. And when people are uncertain like that, then to be safe they stay away, unless they really need to talk to you.
To be more approachable, you regularly have to make small-talk with people around you about the weather, about your family, about their family, and about anything else you may have in common with them. This talk is not so much to give or receive information or even to express your opinions. It's just a way to show your friendliness and good mood to people around you.
Approachability is mutual. When you approach people for small-talk, then you make it ok for them to approach you for anything they need or want from you. But when you stay away from other people, then they begin to wonder if they should be staying away from you too.
2006-10-09 03:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being unapproachable means some may view you as unfriendly, undemonstrative... you appear to be not a very social person, you're aloof, distant, chilly, standoffish. You may give others the impression you prefer to be alone. They can't understand your attitude, and they fear being near you because you're difficult to get to.
If you're shy, perhaps telling them would help. You can practice being a little more demonstrative. Join in conversations.
2006-10-09 04:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the first place do you want people to approach you? You should lead the life of loner and look for a cave somewhere and live a life like a hermit. Why do you need other people anyways? People are a pest! Be what you want to be not be what they want you to be! You owe it to all mankind to segregate yourself from society. Do it man! Wake up!
2006-10-09 03:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by HAMIDON K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being approchable means that people feel as if they can freely talk to you.
If people say that your not approchable don't worry about it because every body will gain that skill eventually and really as long as you have every day friends why would you need to be approchable any way
if it worrys you try acting as if you really don't care what any one thinks of you, thats how i learnt and now i have a bunch of great friends
good luck#
ooxx
2006-10-09 02:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you shy? I'm almost debilitatingly shy & people think that I'm anti-social & unapproachable, but I'm actually a very friendly person who's difficult to get to know because of the 'face to face' problem.
2006-10-09 03:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋