He's lied about so many things - turning in homework, even having homework, lies to his dad about what happens at our house, so many things. Any hope?
2006-10-08 19:23:23 · 20 answers · asked by Meira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd like to add that we are going to family counseling and he has been caught lying about things for years. We made it clear this is not acceptable yet still he does it. I am at a loss to understand what he is doing and how to stop it.
2006-10-08 19:30:31 · update #1
The term Maturity it can be said but what u can do is just give him big kick on his *** then u can find some result out of it because he will not hear u so that's the last opinion left to u
2006-10-08 20:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by SG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm.... since you don't include much in your question, I'd say that most teenagers don't tell the truth all the time about various aspects of thier lives. It's fairly typical.
I've had a compulsive lying problem for as long as I can remember, but in the last year, my husband and I worked out a few safeguards. My main problem was lying about money, so there is a serious checks and balances system in place for our finances, and I don't have the problem with lying much anymore. Typically, lying disorders are considered a personality disorder, which is generally considered non-curable, so I'm living proof that there is hope. But your son will have to be confronted and will have to agree to some very very strict rules to have much change. And I mean strict rules. In my case, we have a checking account without my name on it, my husband signs all checks for bills, he keeps tabs on the account daily, he has passwords to emails, etc. (That can sound bad about my husband, but this is after five years of financial and marital problems, and this actually takes the stress off both of us, him for wondering if I'm telling the truth, and me for worrying about being caught in lies)
2006-10-08 19:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 19 and 20 yr old son i was wondering is it just certain things he lies about or everything and does he act them out i mean by getting into trouble because you said your in counseling is this from lieing i think to help give a answer maybe a little more info.because all kids lie sometime or another. that doesnt make them bad
2006-10-08 19:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by hopefuldella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you love him first and for most. But you have to be strict with him. He's living in your house so he has to live by your rules. Tell him the rules of the house and then the results if he breaks them. You must stick by these rules to no giving in. If you give in he will walk all over you. If you love him you will do what's best for him, even if he hates in the short term he'll love you in the long run. I was crazy as a teen and my dad laid into me. I hated him for it then but I love him for it now. Out of my four friends I was hanging out with then one is dead, suicide, one is in prison, and the other is a regular at the county jail. I would have been right there with them if it wasn't for my dad doing the hard thing and truly loving me.
2006-10-08 19:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by fidxgonzo32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all try and find out..
Where exactly the problem lies..
Is he lying coz hez scared of his mom n dad..
Or is it jus tht he doesnt wnt to tell the truth..
If hez lying coz hez Scared of his mom n dad..
Give him confidence tht u r the best pal...and nothing vl happen if truth is told..
but if there is any other reason...
talking to him calmly shud solve the problem..
hope i elped u people...
2006-10-08 19:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Meira, Sorry to say,alot of kids have no respect for their parents or there property.If he's still lieing at 17yrs.old he will not stop.I have a daughter who is doing the same.No respect at all.
Clowmy
2006-10-08 19:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know when i was younger i used to lie a lot as well. i did it to get attention and once you start to lie it is hard to stop. with me i just grew out of it with time, i learned that when i would lie it just got me into more trouble and i lost the respect of the people around me. i would say its best to continue to tell him its wrong but in the end he has to learn it for himself.
2006-10-08 20:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by spazz2dt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. Its not a reflection on how you raised him. Its him or her learning to express themselves.. And this is where you remind them. The rules haven't changed because it happened to be good timing for them to lie.. So, act accordingly and remember..this too will pass.
2006-10-08 19:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A teenager that tells lies? How unusual!
2006-10-08 19:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by ebonyruffles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so i did the same thing win i was 17 now i am 35
2006-10-08 19:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by Stan the man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋