My son pouts over everything and when you ask him whats wrong he says he is just sad .I of coarse do not think he has anything to be sad about he has everything and anything he has ever wanted.
2006-10-08 19:19:32 · 15 answers · asked by SAHM and proud of it 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
What I should have said is he is not A spoiled child he has never really asked for much so he has what he has wanted and needed
2006-10-08 19:38:29 · update #1
Seems like usual attention seeking behavior; some kids have tantrums, some sulk. Count your blessings that he is not the typical raving lunatic! Of course if this continues for any length of time, I would consult your doctor as kids this young can have signs of depression.
2006-10-10 05:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by funrdhdpeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure there is nothing for him to be sad about? Are there any new changes in his life (new baby, family issues, move, new school)? It there has been a big change in his life give him lots of extra love and support. It sounds like he is finding ways to get attention and feel powerful. Help him to feel powerful by using intrinsic rewards rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job!", stickers, candy). Say things like "You did that by yourself! You can jump super high! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on you picture!" These phrases are a great way to show love and attention and help him to gain some confidence.
Show some empathy when he is pouting. Say "You seem to be feeling (upset, hurt, sad). What can we do about that?" He will learn to better express his feelings and recognize that you understand him. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-10-09 07:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last part of the question sounds like the problem to me. If he has everything he ever wanted then the only thing left is temper tantrums for attention. You need to back it up and start over and re think what you are doing to this kid. If you don't, you are going to have some major problems on your hand in the future! Then they come to me after that for me to fix. I work in a group home for problem children and it is quite a challenge dealing with kids. May I suggest some good old fashion discipline?
2006-10-08 19:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is being abusive and degrading to your little boy. Just cos the kid is only one doesnt mean he isnt taking in everything thats being said to and about him, at least the unsympathic undercurrent behind the words and general atmosphere your husband creates can and probably will be very damaging to the boys pysche with untold consequences for the rest of his life. Part of the problem may be your husband bring ideas of military discipline and philosophies into the domestic realm. An uncle was a high up officer in the army 30 yrs and he was just the same with his kids, calling them horrible names and demanding an over the top expectation that works fine on the parade ground but has no place with little kids. Some of these guys cant or wont see the difference between what goes on in the military and what is appropriate in civvy street. You must continue to stick up for your son, and find a way to prevent your husband, whom Im sure means well at some level, from being abusive. tables turned, a p***y is someone who bullies a little baby, no?
2016-03-28 02:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever my kids get pouty or sulky, I forbid them to smile. This always cracks them up and usually snaps them out of their funk, especially when I threaten them with some ridiculously harsh punishment if they laugh. Sometimes, when you lighten the mood, you can get them to open up about something that's troubling them. Of course he might just be the brooding artistic type. Sometimes we forget that being a kid isn't always easy. Other kids can be sooo mean, and mind monsters lurk in the shadows of closets and under the bed. Nothing is fair to a child, they have no say over so many things and it's hard to understand why. So, they get moody. Let him know that if you know what's making him sad, you'll try your best to fix it because you love him so much and that's your job as his parent. If you deny him the right to feel what he feels, he'll never open up to you. Good luck!
2006-10-08 20:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spare the rod, spoil the child. He needs to learn that you can't always get what you want. Giving your child everything he wants will only give him an unhealthy level of entitlement. Once he establishes that he will never be content because there will always be something he wants. Giving without merit and discipline will make him even more needy.
2006-10-08 19:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by viewAskew 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can he smile? can he enjoy fun things? if the answer is yes then he is unlikely to be depressed - more likely this is just a behavioural quirk - he's unlikely to continue it aged 20 so relax. If he is having difficulty enjoying things that should be fun then you need to be more concerned - ask him specifically why he feels sad and see if you can work out in what situations this seems to happen.
2006-10-08 21:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by qwerty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's five years old...pouting is one of the things 5 year olds do best. Ignore it.
2006-10-08 19:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe that's the problem--he has everything and anything he ever wanted. It doesn't hurt kids to go without occasionally. They will learn that life doesn't owe them everything and neither do his parents. Do you encourage him to draw, play sports with his friends, etc. Maybe he is bored.
2006-10-08 19:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what it is give him suprises and if he goes to school go see if it is some thing there or if some one is picking on him if not than just make a day u and him and give him fun and in return the truth
2006-10-08 19:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋