I was using my boyfriends phone, & under recently usedd numbers there was some girl who I hadnt heard of. So naturally I got a bit concerned, & I know I shouldn't have looked through his phone, it was the wrong thing to do, but I found some messages under sent items.
I found about a message saying wana come to the beach tomorrow to 2 or 3 different girls, guys too... I knew he & a few guyys went to the beach 4 the day on satuday, he said it was a boys day. I heard from someone else that the girls didnt go in the end but still, not good enough. Boys day my a**.
I feel bad for invading his privacy, but thats not the issue, & I suppose that's nothing in comparison do I confront him about this, I know I have too, rather p**sed of!! How do I go about it? What would you do?
2006-10-08 19:08:54 · 11 answers · asked by idk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you trust him there should'nt be an issue here, if you don't trust him then you've got some hard decisions to be made in the next little while.
2006-10-08 19:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically since there were'nt any girls there, it WAS a boys day out. (kidding) I know where you're coming from though. It's not ideal that you were peaking, but you did find something out. I'd try and talk to him cool-like. Get it out in the open. He'll almost certainly try and deny any wrong-doing. Who knows? It may all be innocent. But if not, you'll have to look hard at what's going on and make some tough decisions.
2006-10-09 04:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could try asking him who was invited to the guys day out thing & give him a chance to come clean(maybe he was calling for his friends?? gotta give them the benefit of the doubt sometimes). If he gives you some kind of crazy story, go from there. The girls didn't go that time but what about past or future Guys Day Outs??? True, you shouldn't have invaded his privacy, but in comparison I think he's got more explaining to do than you.
2006-10-09 02:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda have 2 answers..
if ur not sure he lied...
sit down and have a talk and try to work things out and just apologize about the privacy issue if he was bein honest...tell him you just were bein crazy b/c u wanted him all to urself or somthin.
if ur sure he lied..
what else did he do? why did he feel the need to lie? is he cheating? he should have been honest. trust is very important in a relationship and as far as im concerned.. he broke that trust. honesty is somthing that should be important to him as well. if i were you I would meet up w/him and ask him straight out why he lied and tell him i dont appreciate my trust bein broken. if he mentions you goin through his phone or whatever then i would tell him that i SHOULDNT have to do that.. he should be upfront! that boy needs to learn that he cant have you and go play w/other girls too.
2006-10-09 02:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he trusted you, he would have told you about the girls being there, or, invited you to join in. Or maybe he just doesn't want you to get worried about something completely unimportant. Anyway, you have to tell him you saw the messages and ask him what its all about or you'll get sick with worry and will be tempted to follow him every time he goes out without you! Dialog is the most important thing in a relationship, and it doesn't have to be a fight! Hope it turns out well.
2006-10-09 02:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by pegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play dumb and keep looking were there's smoke there's fire. If he's still playing the single game then dump him and move on. If your search turns up nothing then let him know what you did and you don't like him going out with other women.
2006-10-09 02:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by fidxgonzo32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Claire
I've been trying to email you but for some reason there all coming back saying address incorrect. My other email address is: emc_yido@hotmail.com
I hope your ok. I got your message about wanting to see your boyfriend and then him standing you up, you poor girl, but it does show his true colours.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Emma
xx
2006-10-10 04:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u confront him about it u will have it in 2 ways - either he will deny everything and lie to u or he will admit and says bye býe to u. so before starting anything think of the consequences
2006-10-09 02:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you have to confront him otherwise you'll be brooding the whole time
2006-10-09 02:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about it. don't be insecure w/ ur relationship and beleive in urself and him. just go w/ it. if it turns out bad, oh well, wasnt meant to be.
2006-10-09 02:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by limitedgirl_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋