I'm really funny, nice, outgoing, pretty, thin, and I have a good sence of humor, but guys only want to "hook up" with me and not go out with me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a s.lut who hooks up with alot of guys and I'm NOT easy. Why don't they want to date me, just "hook up" with me or as they call it FWB (friends with benefits) I really don't get it. lol. Thanks.
2006-10-08 18:47:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No sex involved
2006-10-08 18:52:26 · update #1
you are probably just sending off the wrong signals...maybe you are too nice to some of these guys...i am a dude and i like dating the nice good looking women...i dont like these girls that are sl.uty...i just end up with the sl.uty ones...some guys take niceness the wrong way and think that you might be coming on to them...most guys think with their small head and not their big head...i am the type of person that doesnt "hook up" with a girl...I have to get to know the person first and/or have a very close relationship (dating and/or friendship) with a person b4 i "hook up"
2006-10-08 19:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by mschwertner69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't fret abt it too much. I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "hook-up" but I used to know someone exactly just like you. Us guys used to just hang out with her, have beers together, smoke, joke and do all kinds of cool stuff and she was pretty much one of the guys, if you know what I mean. I guess there's nothing really wrong with that 'cos sooner or later, one of your guy pals will come to realise, that you all share so much in common, you're the perfect partner. As a pal, you'd already hang out with the rest of his pals, do everything together etc etc and there's nothing better than that.
All you need is a spark to igntite the feelings and you'll be on your way
2006-10-08 18:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by jaffar_ghany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you may be portraying that you are conceded. You say you are pretty nice funny thin etc. So you may try a little modesty. If that is off, even if you dont sleep with these guys you hook up with, if you are super flirty, it gives the impression that you are easy. It sounds like you just need to back off a little. Learn how to play hard to get. And learn to be sencere.
2006-10-08 18:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that doesn't go away over time. You elude confidence, and men love that, they just want to f*** the heck out of you. Perhaps you're gf material, but guys who like many women, don't actually date they just have good times with.
It's flattering, but just becareful you don't get hurt. Some guys try pathetically hard jus to get a piece of ***. You have sexual chemistry right off the bat, and that's all a guy cares to see. And since ur so funny, nice, and outgoing, they take advantage of your sense of humour and don't take u seriously.
It gets worse when married men complain about their wives to you, and how they want to take care of you.... why do you think strong women are called bitches? Get your ***** on woman, and don't fall for every guy who's attracted to you.
2006-10-08 18:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta start respecting yourself for starters. Most guys out there only care about one thing. Women complain all the time that men are pigs, but then why are they giving what men want???
Life is too short to waste your time on parasitic people....start looking for nice guys who want to be with you for your heart and mind and whatever you do DON'T GIVE IN TO THEIR SELFISH DESIRES....because that's all it is....so why throw yourself around like a cheap rug with these jerks when you could stand up and start loving yourself for your special qualities and you as a person.
I suggest you join community-based activities (church functions, join a specific club (yoga, volleyball, etc...)...meet some nicer people for a change.
Good day.
2006-10-08 18:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not be a guy, but maybe I can help. I don't think it has anything to do with you needing to change. Maybe it's that guys see you as more of the friend type than as the girlfriend type. If they can't appreciate you, then they don't deserve you. The right guy will eventually come along, guaranteed!
2006-10-08 18:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by laislinns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u re too plain - u show all your cards in one go and there is no mistery left for them to explore. this is an art - to keep people interested in seeing u and persuading your company.but im sure if u re attentive enough and will learn lessons from all your mistakes in a few years u will learn how to do that. some women re born with it, some have to learn it hard way and some dumb women never learn it, that's why they stay single all their lives even thou they consider themselves "beautiful and funny"
2006-10-08 18:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it love. Just live life & enjoy yourself. You really aren't missing out on much. Trust me, the boys will come around.
P.S: Dont ever opt to be a friend with benefits.. girls like that are skanky.
2006-10-08 18:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex, and tell them that you wont sleep with them unless you know for sure that they'll date you for longer than a one night stand
That is. IF for you "hook up"= Sex
Sorry, if I misunderstood
2006-10-08 18:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. It's the guys you hang out with that's the problem. Good luck in the future.
2006-10-08 18:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋