As a 15-yr old guy, I feel very girly in wanting this, but my sexual fantasy is to cuddle with a chubby girl, about this plump: (http://img212.imageshack.us/img212/3024/a006820xgmo3.jpg [worksafe, I'm not mean like that D:]), while listening to some light jazz and talking. Is there some genetic wrongity with me or something? Becuase it's like, every guy I've met is always checking out girls, "rating" them and being all "I'd hit that" and etc. I think this is wrong, but it seems to be the norm for guys these days.
2006-10-08 18:32:37 · 9 answers · asked by Nator P 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I agree with you that i think that is wrong (what the guys do), and i personally don't think there is anything wrong w/ just wanting to cuddle someone and talk. That to me seems to say that you want a real relationship w/ someone, and not just the passion of sex that can be found w/ almost anyone. I personally prefer guys like how you described yourself than guys that act all manly and treat girls like they are sex toys. There is nothing genetically wrong with you, alot of guys are like that. IMHO, it's the 'normal' guys that have something wrong w/ them to an extent, but that's something else entirely. Don't worry about it, in the long run i think you will be happier than the type of guy that likes one night stands. If you really are worried about being genetically wrong or like there's something wrong with you you can see a counsellor (they woulnd't judge you, only listen) but i think you are perfectlly normal. wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-08 18:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound to be a very wise 15 year old. Don't lose your respect because the other guys have none. She is very pretty.
You will get the better woman in the end.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with a plump girl. Every man has different desires and just because the others are watching the cute little tushes walking around, deep in their heart they want to be cuddled by a plump girl too. Take my word they do. I have plenty of men friends and almost all of them have told me this. White, Black, and even Hispanic, they are all the same.
Too many guys are hung up on the slim chicks because that's all they see in movies and videos.
Poor guys will never know how it feels to have a plump woman hold them in their soft, round, warm, sexy arms and the rest of the body too.
Yes, I am a big, soft, sexy woman so I know!!!!
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH CUDDLING. IT WILL LEAD TO TRUE FEELINGS. Not the kind that changes every month.
2006-10-08 18:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with wanting to cuddle instead of having sex. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be with a girl who's not skinney as a rail. Lots of guys like bigger women, you just never hear about them. I definately think too that there's nothing wrong with wanting to just cuddle. Most guys now a days are all about being competitive in everything in life for example, who has the hottest girlfriend and who's having the most sex. If you don't think like that, I congratulate you for having good morals and respect when it comes to women... You'll go far in life with those.
2006-10-08 18:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Val 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. It takes a real man to be able to admit that. I'm sure there are other guys who feel like the way you feel but peer-pressure is so strong, they won't admit it. Don't do anything you're not ready to do. You'll make someone happy one day by being a good, caring husband.
2006-10-08 19:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on NOT being like every other 'I'd hit that!!!' kinda guy! There is nothing genetically wrong with you, nothing mentally wrong or nothing emotionally wrong with you either.
Everyone is different and it just seems that you might require a higher emotional involvement or connection with your future partner.
And by the way, that picture...she doesn't look chubby to me, she looks normal and healthy and cute.
2006-10-08 18:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by mildly_adiktiv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex AT ALL...
you might be asexual, like I am.
A person who is asexual (as opposed to heterosexual or homosexual) does not desire sex, even if he/she DOES enjoy cuddling or other forms of intimacy.
I'm not trying to jump to conclusions, it's just that from what you say about wondering why other guys are always checking out girls and rating them, etc...it sounds like a possibility. If you want any more info see source cited!
2006-10-08 18:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you seem like a very sweet guy its nice to know theres still guys that like to cuddle
2006-10-08 18:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by sexymama28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your just fine. it will come in time and your doing all the right things to find someone special that will last
2006-10-08 18:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG
2006-10-08 18:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by mhnlrj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋