he gets scared rwally easy , he complains of stomach pain when I am not around I feel sad I want to help him
2006-10-08 18:22:16 · 6 answers · asked by Renata F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is what you do, don't be said if so don't show him, or he will just hate anxiety even more, smile when your around him show strenght, and then he will. Support him in anything he does show way more love to him then you do now, teach him that he is important just like any other human own this planet, and I promise he will learn how to live with it.
2006-10-08 18:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son's age does make a difference. Up to a certain age, separation anxiety is a healthy developmental issue (even if it's a pain to you).
There are a lot of children who are overly cautious in social situations. PLEASE don't follow someone's idea that because he's a boy, and he needs to grow up to be a man, he needs to "tough it up" or he'll be a "mama's boy". He's still a child and he still has a child's mentality.
It might help if you talk to him often about what will go on. For example, if you are going to take him to daycare (I'm thinking along the line of a 3-5 year old), you can let him know exactly what will be going on. Be precise. I do this with my little boy. When I tuck him in bed at night, I tell him specifically that when he wakes up, he's going to watch cartoons, eat breakfast (and I'm specific, letting him know he'll have a poptart and chocolate milk, or cheerios, or whatever), get dressed, and go to school. Allow some time during drop-off. Tell him on the way to daycare, and then repeat as often as he needs, that you'll pick him up after school, then you'll go home and fix dinner (once again, precise), take a bath, put jammies on, etc. Do that regularly, and it'll cement the fact for him that you'll be back, and he won't have to wonder when. You might want to come up with some way to allow him to feel close to you, even if he isn't. With my son, we both have those little rubber bracelets that have things written on them (he has a blue one that says "Spirit" or something like that, and I have a pink Susan G. Komen bracelet). He can use that to feel close to you, because wherever you are during the day, you have a bracelet "just like him". Talk to his teacher, or whoever is with him when he's not with you. He or she may have some good suggestions, and they can also remind him throughout the day that Momma will be back and even go through the "what we'll do" list with him. Be patient and sympathetic, but firm. Acknowledge his fears, but keep putting him in situations where you're not around. For example, don't go to him immediately if he claims to have a tummy-ache but there doesn't seem to be anything physically wrong.
Reassuring your son isn't babying him, it's the best way to get him to deal.
2006-10-09 02:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand back a bit and just let him be a person of his own. Mommy doesn't always need to be there. That could mess him up worse. It is OK if he is afraid to do something he will get over it But only if he dose it.
2006-10-09 01:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? My son had some social anxiety problems, too.
I handled it differently according to how much he could understand.
2006-10-09 01:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope he is a young child.....if so. .....you would help most by letting him do things without you. he needs to be able to do things on his own. i bet he is up under you all the time isnt he? just loosen the chain just a llittle, he is a boy, he needs to become a strong man.....he cant be if you baby him. no offense.
2006-10-09 01:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh dear that must be equally hard for u. i cant answer dis but i hope all goes well soon...
love!
2006-10-09 01:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by nadiee mulisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋