my son just started to not listen to me. he gets on the couch and jumps, stands on the coffee table, and all these other things that he knows he is not suppose to do. when i tell him no or even raise my voice at all to him he laughs and does it again. ive tried making him sit. i dont know what else to do. i dont want to yell and scream at him, hes too little. i think he is acting out because i just had another baby a month ago. but then again he absolutely loves his baby brother. i dont know. can someone please help me?
2006-10-08 18:19:56 · 18 answers · asked by krystina2100 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes i do let him help me with the baby. feeding, washing, he hands me a diaper when i need it, holding him, and he is always giving him kisses and hugs. thank you for your advice.
2006-10-08 18:30:46 · update #1
to the idiot who said to inflict pain on my 1 year old, i really hope you never have kids!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-08 18:37:05 · update #2
He is still a baby and needs to be "babied". Please don't yell at him. You should never yell at your kids. Tell him no. Tell him you will count to three. If she still doesn't obey, but him in his crib or playpen for 5 minutes. Repeat this a few times and he will learn to obey.
When you are feeding the new baby, let him sit with you and cuddle him at the same time. Please don't forget that he is still a baby even though you have a new born. Spend some time alone playing with him when the baby is asleep. He needs to know he is still just as important as he was before.
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2006-10-08 18:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a little young for too severe a punishment, but he does need to know you mean business. The doctor suggestion is a good one to rule out any problems with his hearing, but if he is laughing at you after you tell him to stop, he is probably just acting out. Children even older that him often regress and act out to get attention when a new baby arrives. Even though he loves his new brother, there will be some jealousy over having to share you and he will compete for your attention. Children figure ANY attention is better than none, so sometime yelling and getting upset only plays into those thoughts and then they think that is how to get it everytime.
Try to spend some special time with him while the baby is asleep or maybe while some one else watches the baby for short periods of time. It can be something very simple such as going into the back yard and playing silly games with him, getting in the floor and coloring alongside him, doing some simple arts and craft type activities, play games or reading books. Let him be your guide by asking him what he would like to do. This lets him have a little bit of say so in this big world and also that his decisions count. It sends him the message that he still matters to you and that he doesn't have to be bad to get your attention.
Of course while the baby is awake he needs to know that he will have to share your attentions so definitely be consistant with a one or two minute time out or removal of a favorite item for a little while (only about an hour or so). Punishments like these need to fit the age of the child. Because of their short attention spans, it loses all meaning if they forget they were punished to begin with.
2006-10-09 01:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think it will stop untill hes older i have a 3yr old boy who is still told repeatedly not to stand or jump"OFF" the furnature. i to had a new baby she is now 14 months old and copying her brother i am also due next month it could be his way of acting out because of the new baby. try spending just him time. no baby. reading or going for a walk. when baby naps get down on the floor and play with only him. have him help you with dinner or cleaning. its hard on little kids when a new sibling comes into the picture. they consume so much of our time. also when the baby wakes have him check on the baby. even if the babys crying he can come and get you and tell you the baby needs you. he is the big brother and if you give him big boy responsibilities he will feel more involved. this worked for me for awhile untill his sister was big enogh to start doing the things he stopped now hes back to his old self again he just has an acomplise to get in trouble with.
2006-10-09 01:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not acting out- he's simply being a child. At 15 months old, he's too little to understand that he mustn't do things. Simply persist in telling him off, be positive, say things like "how about you come and sit down on the floor and play with whatever his favourite toy is" when he's on the coffee table. Give plenty of positive reinforcement when he does as he's told. Give him time and soon he will learn to listen all the time, not just when he wants too.
2006-10-09 01:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by moroaero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be more difficult witha new baby, and may become tiresome, but the best method for this age is redirection. It really does work!
Fr example; my son (19 months) loves to jump on the couch and stand in the rocking chair. I totally amazed one of the parents of the children I watch the other day when he was excited because she was here and stood up on the couch. I simply said "____ we sit on the couch, we stand on the floor." He sat right down. She actaully said "wow!"
The secret is, I have been telling him this and showing him how to sit properly for 3 or 4 months. I also put him on the floor when he refused to sit and told him. "You may stand on the floor. The couch is only for sitting." It takes a while to teach, but the best part is they don't just learn what NOT to do, but what they SHOULD do instead!
Teaching any skill takes time. You could go for the easy out and punish him for exploring boundries, or you can firmly but gently reinforce and clarify those boundries every time, so that he will know what is expected and acceptable.
My mantra is "what do I want him to LEARN?"
I don't want children to fear me, I want them to understand how to cooperate with me.
2006-10-09 01:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok this is a system i just learned about and it has done wonders for my daughter and my nephew this will also help with reading skills
its called CHIPS
youll need like some poker chips or something of that nature and a box of goodies and posterboard
on the poster board write the goodies that you have and how many chips they cost
then when your child is good throughout the day you reward him with a chip and when he acts out you make him give you a chip the first 2 days are the hardest cause he will have to learn whats going on and when he has to give up a chip he wont like it and yes you may have to take all his chips for tantrums
the youngest one in my family right now on that system just turned 1 last month
its works best if you put all children in the home on this system because they all get rewarded for doing good and all see that when they act out they dont get things that they want later on
if you have any questions feel free to im me and ill help ya out
2006-10-09 01:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by staringmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all make sure that he does not have a hearing problem with your local doctor, if that comes back all clear than try using a nick name to first get your child's attention, then speak to him, it's fun and the child will enjoy the uniqueness and attention of it. Also remember sibling rivalry can be very discreet. He misbehaves because he wants your attention. Try including him in the day to day goings on for the new baby, get him to help with feeds and bathing them.
2006-10-09 01:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by kip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step with any child is to make sure you have their attention first. If he is being a maniac on the furniture, get him off of it. Have him standing in front of you, get down to his eye level, and make sure you have plenty of eye contact. Explain what you don't want him to do. You can often do it in a positive way (like saying: You need to be gentle on the furniture, etc.) instead of just saying "don't" or "no" all of the time. Then explain what will happen if he continues to do it, i.e.: time out, no TV, etc. Make sure you follow through. As a general rule, time outs are 1min/yr of age, and no screaming allowed or it's time out until time can be served in quiet. But stand firm, mommy!
2006-10-09 01:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by chafer17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really isn't much u can do....my sons doctor told me that it's repetition that gets kids to listen so every time he jumps on the table u have to look at him firmly and let him know that it's wrong and that's he's upsetting u by not listening to u....children(even grown adults) don't like their parents being upset with them and so they wont do it again it may take a while for him to get it but he will if u keep doing it every time he does it u can't let it go sometime and get mad others because that confuses them on whats right and wrong
2006-10-12 18:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bet it still has a lot to do with the newborn...just because he loves the new baby doesn't mean he understands why he's NOT the center of attention any more. And maybe he figures he'll get more of it if he makes "a fuss" too, like newborns just do.
2006-10-09 01:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by kirbykins730 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋