Girls.. what do you think about a shy guy? Is this a turn-off for the majority of women?
It's really easy for me to make friends with girls, I have no problem doing that. Especially considering half of all my friends are girls. But when it comes to a girl that I find attractive... I can't seem to get the guts to ask her out.
What are your Suggestions/Opinions? And do you have any past experiences you are willing to share?
-Thanks
2006-10-08 18:17:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you don't ask girls out, then how will they know u like them? you've got to at least flirt with them or something.
being shy is not a turn off for me. i am very outgoing, and my husband is very quiet and shy. we compliment each other very well!
2006-10-08 18:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very attractive quality. It can sometimes get in the way though as you expressed. I have to face rejection sometimes, but there are ways to find out if you have a good chance with a girl if you do it right. If you can hold eye contact for just a second longer than you feel comfortable with then there is a good sign if she holds it too , she is interested. If she looks down right away and then back at you, she is interested too. If she looks at you for a second and then she is on to others and never looks at you again....forget it! You have to build some skills with this and it won't be easy for a shy guy. You can do it though. Get a book or two on this subject. You'll be surprised at what will help you. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-08 18:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, and I was also a shy guy, I would ask this very question. Some of the girls that answer will certainly well give you some good advice. However, sometimes it is not just technique or advice that is the answer.
Just for your information, fear of others or Social Phobia is the number one mental health problem in our world. (Don't freak out because coffee addiction is also a mental health problem) It is a real problem, so I would suggest that you take the girls advice, and hopefully it will do the trick, but if not, talk to a counselor on the subject and he or she may offer something that can assist you also. Good luck!
2006-10-08 18:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Yahoo, I think you are a nice guy,and i don't see why the girls would think you are a turn off.It's refreshing to hear a guy thats shy,who likes a girl and is afraid to ask her out.Women or girls don't like a guy who comes on to strongly. Why not just go up to this girl and ask her out to a movie and burgers after.If you don't do this,it will never happen.Remember,treat your date like a lady and respect. Always open doors for her. Be a gentleman,they are a dieing breed,and women or girls likes to be treated in this way.
Clowmy
2006-10-08 18:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up, Shy guy, i could lots quite be with a shy guy then with an egoistical fool who thinks he's "warm" stuff! I even have constantly been that way. My late husband and my now husband have been the two shy and wow, they have been/are the main suitable adult men ever. I used to date a substantial leaque baseball participant......oh my, what an ego.....I ditched him. basically think of of someplace you may ask out a woman and then say i could truly prefer to take you to such and considered one of those place. The worst which will ensue is she will have the skill to declare NO. there are a number of gals accessible, honey, so basically shop asking and don't take it as a private rejection in any respect. once you hit upon the suited female, you will no longer be shy!!!! believe me!!! SHY adult men ARE the main suitable!!!!!
2016-10-15 23:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by rochart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a shy girl, but I have learned to use my friendship making skills when it comes to talking to men I am attracted to. Keep it neutral at first. Get to know them. Then you let them know that you want to go out or take it to the next level. If you are worried about being rejected, dont! Everyone has to go through that. It is better than never going out with anyone! Just remember to try, take a deep breath and go for it! Good Luck!!!
2006-10-08 18:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a shy girl myself, I know how you feel. I always have trouble talking to a guy I like or even calling him for the 1st time. Something that helps me is to just convince myself to dial the numbers and persevere. Even if you're nervous, most of the times the pay off is better anyways. So just keep it up and keep telling yourself that you can get through it, that helps.
2006-10-08 18:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Val 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a turn-off or anything alike it's just that we get tired of waiting to much, i like a guy who's kind of shy and it's not a turn off for me
well for me it's not ...dont know if it's a turn off for other girls
by the way are you reffering to shy all the time or just the fact of having to start the a conversation
2006-10-08 18:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a turn-off for me.I have the biggest crush on one of the shyest guys ever.His name's Jay,and he couldn't be more shy.
It is harder for something to come of a relationship if the guy/girl is shy,but it certainly doesn't make you turned off from someone.
2006-10-08 18:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in a girl, ask her out. What is the worst that could happen? Ask her when you are alone w/ her or call her.
2006-10-08 18:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋