I am in college. I have a class with this girl I have had my eye on for a few weeks now.
We've met up once already at a coffeehouse where we talked for a little over an hour - the basics were covered (favorites, interests, etc).
She really seems to respond more to things I ask/tell her over Facebook - moreso than in-person.
The problem I have is this: she is really quiet! She will answer questions I ask her, and respond to conversation I initiate, but she will not ask me any questions, and she never starts up a conversation with me!!!
How can I get her to feel more comfortable around me and willing to let her guard down/be more talkative?
Thanks in advance for your input!
2006-10-08 18:12:23 · 15 answers · asked by racing_into_the_future 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would I be better off to avoid talking to her in person for a few days, or keep trying to initiate different conversations?
I am afraid that by "ignoring" her for a few days, that she will think I am no longer interested in her, and that she will lose interest in me, or that she will just lose interest in me completely regardless of what the reason may be.
Does her not talking to me mean that she is no longer interested in me, and that she is too afraid to tell me outright, or am I overthinking this matter too much?
I just wish I knew where I stand with this girl!!!
2006-10-08 18:35:59 · update #1
Continue what you have been doing, just be patient. Id say try another meeting similar to the coffeehouse one if you want to do something with her. It sounds like she is very interested, but she is cautious, so just give her time, be patient and dont push or rush her, but continue to initiate conversation with her when you can so that she knows you are still interested but respect her boundaries til she is ready to be more open with you. If you are patient it will happen.
2006-10-08 18:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That will probably come as she begins to feel more comfortable with you and the rapport begins to build. Perhaps try meeting her at a place she really enjoys or suggests...maybe that will put her at ease and help her to open up. For example, maybe she loves art...you might suggest meeting at an art gallery or if she loves animals, maybe the zoo. She might just be shy, nervous around you because she is attracted to you or there is the chance she is just not a great conversationalist. I would give it a little time to progress and see her in a variety of situations before deciding on a conclusion. Good luck!
2006-10-08 18:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by schneeballe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little more time to get comfortable. I talk the least with the guys I like the most :)
2006-10-08 18:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent, not persistent. Just keep it up. But don't be pushy. Just wait. It takes time. You'll just have to be patient. A clever girl won't easily let her guard down.
2006-10-08 18:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 23:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by rochart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be the same way.Shy women are like that.Or,she may be nervous around you cause she has feeling for you.Just keep asking and talking to her.She will start to feel more open torwards you.
2006-10-08 18:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her, be patient. Sometimes when people are shy, they just don't open their mounth easily especially when they like someone.
Be patient, try to get together with her more. Ask her what she likes to do, like walking, biking, hiking or watch movie. Do something she likes, she may lossen up.
Good luck.
2006-10-08 18:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by RWH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time and space. if she is just shy than forcing her to initiate talk is just going to push her away.
or maybe she is not into you and using the shyness as a way to keep you off.
anyway, time will tell.
2006-10-08 18:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by j y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her more time and not be to pushy when talking to her. If she feels relaxed around you, the conversation will just happen...
2006-10-08 18:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue talking to her...maybe she just needs to become more familiar with you before she opens up a little more...just be sure not too be too pushy in trying to communicate with her otherwise you won't get anywhere.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-08 18:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by randa_da_panda1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋