I wnat to know what people think about spankings?

Answer 1

Althought some people think I am oversimplistic--I think there is way too little spanking--and I believe it is an important component or raising and instilling discipline in children.Although this is a stupid analogy--a paddle does a good job of keeping the boat headed in the right direction.

Although I was spanked as a kid I was convinced in college that it was inappropriate. So I did not at first spank when I had my own kids. To make a long story short--in the course of being a Mom I changed my tune and decided my parents were not so dumb and old fashioned after all.

I know that anectodal stories are not very useful--but that is the major reason I spank--it works for me. I also think it is fairer and less mean than punishments like time outs and groundings. A spanking gets the punishment over and the air is cleared. The other things drag the thing out. I don't want to be a parental jailer. With younger kids I think the whole point of why they are being punsihed is lost. With older kids it is no more of an effective punishment and inspiration to strive for better behavior than jailing adults is.


I think if more parents would spank--and do it correctly--they would be very surprprised by the results they get. And I don't mean for every little thing but not just as a last resort either. The real key to making it work is consistency.

I should also mention all the research that has been done on this subject showing it is bad. These are all statistically flawed. Infact to the surprise of one researchers who surveyed all the research--he found it to be the most effective method of getting children to comply with the wishes of their parents.

There is a reason parents have been spanking since time immemorial. The anti-spanking movement is very new. And like a lot of new untested ideas I am convinced it is wrong.

Answer 2

Well, let me give you my opinion, and I'm not sure too many people would agree with this, if they did it would be great.

There IS A DIFFERENCE between spanking a child and child abuse.

Spanking a child includes just a quick light swat on the butt, light enough to not actually hurt them, but with a bit of pressure to let them know that what they did was wrong. If you spank a child just right, it won't actually hurt their butts. But they won't like the idea of being spanked so they might not do the same action again.

Child abuse occurs when the parent just totall loses their marbles and goes kujo on the childs rear-end, leaving nasty bruises. An example would be this woman I know who got totally frusterated at her child, picked him up my his arm, jerked down his jeans which almost tore some skin off, her fingernails scratched from his back to his buttcheeks, and proceeded to hitting his bare butt full force about 20 times, literally, and screaming in his ear.

One way to approach a child is to give the 3 warning system. First time they act up, set them down and talk to them, and MAKE THEM USE THEIR BRAIN and make them think and understand that what they done was wrong, why it was wrong, and what the next consequence will be. Second warning will be a time out, either in a chair or standing them in a corner for a few minutes, and letting them know that if they mess up again, they will get spanked. Of course, third warning is a spanking and a timeout, with privelages taken away.

This is all my opinion, and nobody has to agree with it.

Answer 3

I think that if done appropriately there is no harm or further phycological damage done to the child. By 'done appropriately' i mean not hard enough to leave a mark, only on the bottom or top of the hand and warnings should be given to the child first. Also never spank more than once at a time, if it didn't work the first time it wont work a seconth or third time (yes i know i spelt seconth the way i did, it's how i say it so it's how i spell it)

Answer 4

I agree with corporal punishment. I am 45 years old and grew up in the rural south. In school if you stepped out of line they would pull you out in the hall and wup your ***. If Dad found out you where prolly getting it again. Here's the point. During hunting season we all carried guns to school. The school parking lot full of guns every day! Every red blooded boy in school had a rifle or shotgun in the truck or car so you could go hunting on the way home. NO BODY EVER GOT SHOT! It never crossed any of our minds one time to solve any of our problems with those guns. Part (a huge part) of the reason was this. We where brought up from early age knowing that some types of behavior would not be tolerated at all. EVER! The punishment for said behavior would be swift and painful. Yes it can be abused but we have thrown out the baby with the wash water folks. Some behavior should not be tolerated ever. Punishment should be swift and painful and NOT a negotiation.

Answer 5

I've never really been against spanking, its just that I never did.
I'm sure I swatted at their hands when they were toddlers, but thats about it. (kids 18-15-10)

Lately I've caught a few of those nanny 911 type shows...oh my gosh...

I can't believe the way these kids act! If I were their mothers, there's no doubt that they would be spanked.

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with it. Look at the condition of society now that spankings are 'abusive'. Some kids may not need spankings in order to behave but MANY kids need and should get spankings!! Mine included!

Answer 7

i don't think there's a thing wrong with spanking, my kids are 14, 17 and 20 and they all got spanked when they were younger. i even used my hand i wanted them to know the arms and hands that spank are the arms and hands that give hugs and unconditional love.

Answer 8

Personally, i think if my child does something wrong I am all for one quick swat on the bum. I think as long as you have control of your temper and do not overdo it, one quick swat is not going to harm them. Funny how they seem to think that a swat on the bum is child abuse nowadays, consider all the school shootings and crud that are happening now that parents aren't taking control of thier children. Funny that weren't all those things going on back when spaking was happening but the system seems to know best...ha ha. I say go ahead and give them a swat on the behind, my children mind me because i do. I was spanked and I turned out just fine.

Answer 9

Are you talking about spanking children? If so, I agree with them. Even biblically children were spanked. Within reason of course, it should be for there own good and not your anger. It helps to wait a few minutes before you do it if you are mad. Good luck and remember that a well behaved child will have many benefits in life due to their good behavior. It makes good sense and good children...................!

Answer 10

They're fun if you're kinky;-)


But seriously they mostly breed resentment and teach that "might makes right" which will get fear-based obediance, but never genuine cooperation.

There are much better ways to teach a child self discipline.

Spankings will not stop school shootings. Does anyone know if those shooters were ever spanked? Parents need to do more than "be in control" of their children; they need to teach their children how to control themselves. Threat of violence is only effective as long as the perpetrator is bigger and more powerful than the victim.