my boyfriends ex lover will not leave us alone, shes determined to breake us up and make my life a living hell, she calls him more than i do and calls him when im not around so i dont know what we are talking about. she tells him she loves him, but he doesnt want to be with her. shes moody and tries to be my friend sometime but the second he becomes the topic of conversation she gets mean. its driving me to the point were i cant handle it and i get so angry everytime i hear her voice i become uncontrollable. he just thinks its funny because he doesnt care what she says or does, he thinks its a big joke. but i dont think he understands how it effects me. i wish she would just leave us alone to be together. how should i get rid of her?
2006-10-08 17:32:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHY do you even bother talking to the EX??
Leave the EX-factor on Mars in the EX-tra-terrestrial Section!!
She needs to "E.T-Phone-Home" and get the heck out of your relationship.
By the way, CHANGE YOUR NUMBER---OR---get Call Block!!
2006-10-08 17:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by What gives? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf definitely shuld be involved in this as he is the real link between u n the girl. I suggest u talk with ur boyfriend about how u really feel n how it is affecting u emotionally...if he truly loves u he will listen n then both of u can act accordingly.
I thnk the ex is pursuing the matter because in her eyes ur bf doesnt seem to be bothered about whats going on..but clearly she's getting to u, so she's gonna push u to the edge to get back at him for breaking off the r'ship or something.
The best is for u n your bf both to talk to her n try to get some sense into her head.. or ignore her..whatever..but do it together cos it'll affect her much more thn just u..im sure in due time, she'll leave both of u alone.
Good luck dearie :)
2006-10-08 17:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit her over the head with a shovel. Then use the shovel to bury her.
Seriously: What are you, a freaking drama queen? Invite her over for a three-way. Don't tell your boyfriend. Just surprise him. Your boyfriend will think you're the coolest thing in the world, and the biatch will realize that all she has to offer is sex - and that you don't care if your boyfriend humps her, she'll never have him anyway.
Be sure to take video... tell her you'll play it for her mother if she doesn't piss off.
2006-10-08 17:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by A_Patriot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh sweetie.....i hate to be the one to tell you.....but the crazy ex isn't your biggest problem.
it's your boyfriend. he's either not telling you something since he's still taking her calls (caller id does exist and he does actually have the option of not picking up the phone) so you need to talk to him about how serious is he about keeping that psycho as an ex. because a guy doesn't keep a female around to be friends with....they keep them around so they can have a last minute booty call on hand.
2006-10-08 17:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if hes still talking to her well it may not be good when your with him i mean she was the ex and how you say he don't know how is affecting you so this is not good.Have you told her anything i mean get your attitude and tell her straight out that you don't want her around and call if he don't care he wouldn't be answering her call
2006-10-08 17:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like your boyfriend respects your feelings regarding this issue. If he did then he would not entertain her by talking to her and he would tell her to stop calling. I think that you should be more concerned about how your boyfriend is acting in this situation. He essentially started the problem so he should be the one to fix it if he wants to keep your relationship.
2006-10-08 17:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by sleep2dream65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh child! You have something on your hands. First things first: YOUR man. You need to take your man and talk to him. Let him know this is not a joking matter. That girl is getting on your last nerve and you don't appreciate him thinking it is all just a joke. There is nothing funny about. Throw some of that reverse psychology on him...ask him how would he feel if the roles were reverse. Be hard on him and tell him to ignore her calls and ignore her tactics and quit talking to her behind your back. That is giving her the pleasure of knowing that she is continually crawling up your skin because he is allowing her to. Second thing, you need to just leave that heffa alone. Don't talk to her and whatever you do...QUIT giving her the pleasure of knowing that she crawling up your skin. That is what she wants. She is thriving off the thought of getting you so pissed off. You need to be nice to her and let her know nicely, calmly, and irmly that you don't appreciate her talking to your man. Put her in her place. If she continues then just continue to ignore her and move on. She is obviously a child and needs to grow up and it is up to you to be the mature one and get over it! Hope this helps!
2006-10-08 17:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh do i feel your pain my guys ex shes still telling people that there together im so sick of her,she has people calling our house telling him that she owes money and that hes going to pay,she called one day and told me that he bought another house and that they were living together,so i said oh really where is he at right now because i knew so i wanted to see if she knew she says well i thought he was there visiting the kids,and i said well how are you living together when hes home with me every night.then she says he sold all of his furniture except his bedroom furniture so i said oh yeah where is the bedroom fur.she says its right here at our knew house i said oh really so why am i sitting right here in the office looking at the bedroom furn. i mean we even had to get an order of protection from this phys-co,i would say lets kill all the exes but that would include us as well.every ones an ex.but you need to make sure hes not talking to her anymore that feeds her demented mind and i wouldn't tolerate it if he continues to talk to her.like i told my guy this bit** is your problem you need to deal with it and i let him know that there would be no us if she stayed in the picture.i think he got the picture-no pun intended
2006-10-08 17:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by my space 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both enjoying the drama. You talk to her because it's you're way of having one up on her. You've got him and she doesn't so it's your way of slapping her in the face. Give me a break - there's no reason you need to be talking to her. And him, I'd rip him a new a....hole. He likes being the center of atteniton with both of you. I'm surprised he can get his head through the door.
You're both of a joke!!!!!!
2006-10-08 17:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by CA Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your boyfriend step in. It's technically his fault that she's involved in your relationship in the first place.
2006-10-08 17:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by SwinkSS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋