when (if ever) do you think it is a good time for a stay at home mom to go back to work?

Question

i think when the youngest is like in the second grade or so, personally. I can't see why someone would still say their kids need them to be home at like 13 or 14 and i know a few. Just my opionon just wondering how long you thought

this is not a knock on women who can't stay home or don't want to that is your choice just for women who do
my wife is back in school 4 months later and we are debating if she will stay home after she finshes her degree and how long

Answer 1

Why not stay home until everyone is 18, its better I think...you'll have influence in there lives...not there friends.

Answer 2

well from my own personal opinion its up to you. if your youngest is in school maybe go back to work while they are in school then you get time out of the house, extra money with no child care cost, and you work the hours you child is in school. so you can be there for your child no matter there age. im a stay at home mom now and i really want to work but i cant afford the child care for 3 let alone a provider since i have 2 under 2. and an emplyer that will work the hours i need since i have 2 in school too. so im waiting and taking in the benifits of a stay at home mom it wont be long before the last one will be getting on that school bus for the first time.

Answer 3

I have always worked at jobs where I can be home when my kids are home, and I have noticed a HUGE difference between kids without a parent home when they are home vs. my kids and kids in a similar situation. Kids (especially teens!) need adult supervision at all times. This means you either know where your kids are and what they are doing, or you have left them with an adult you trust to do the same. Too many working parents are horribly naive about what their kids are doing while unsupervised. I have seen them be fooled many times. Their children are given a blanket of trust before they are mature enough to handle it. These are always the kids who get pregnant, use and sell drugs or engage in criminal activity. Go back to work if you must, but be home when school is out or ask a friend who is home to watch your kids after school and on breaks. Even better, find a work-at-home job.

Answer 4

I am a stay at home mom... My youngest is in 4th grade (9 years old) I will stay at home indefinately both my husband and I like the arangement...

A child of 13-14 has just as many problems, difficulties etc. as a child of 3-4 those problems etc. are just different... I personally enjoy being home when my kids get home being able to talk with them etc. and being able to have no outside obligation getting in the way... My husband and I are luckier than some as we are able to financially make it on just his income.. So I am able to stay home indefinantly..

Each family is different and each decision will be different... There is no set ttime limit on when children no longer need a parent at home... Each child is different... By saying a child of 13-14 doesn't need a stay at home mom you are saying you know the ins and outs of that familys dynamics and you can't you are not a member of that family...

Don't judge another person until you have walked in his/ her shoes, If you feel 13-14 yr old child doesn't need you at home thats fine go to work but don't judge others who decide to remain home...

Answer 5

I stayed home with my son until he was 2 1/2 years old. At that point, I put him in daycare. He is doing great, I think the transition was harder for me than him. I think it's great if you can stay home the first couple of years, but then I think the child needs to learn to socialize and follow instructions from other adults(teachers) in a school setting....it also helps with discipline, keeping them on a schedule, and they learn a lot, too!

Answer 6

In some cultures women should never take a job outside the home even when the kids are grown and moved out. Everyone has different views and situations so to each her own.

Answer 7

i think that the best time to go back to school or work would be after the first yr or 2 because if u stay at home till there any older they will think that ur never gonna leave them and then when u do need to leave they will put up a big fight and think that ur never coming back for them this way if u leave when there young they will now that u wont always be there and but u will always come back and be there when they need it most.

Answer 8

My opinion a mother of 6 I always stayed home with my 1st 4 and it was the greatest job,to teach them how you want to raise them not to depend on babysitters or daycares,than my last 2 I did work but parttime and took my child to work with me cause I worked at a daycare,and it was sad to see lots of parents having to work and well never really spent time with their children they became our children we were practically raising them and loving them when they got hurt or cried and we held them and changed their diapers and when they were sick,we pretty much did all the work that a mother should want to do. When I had to work a fulltime job with my 6th child oh man I cried,even though my eldest daughter was taking care of her it was so hard,especially when my daughter did certain things for the 1st time and I missed them,but when I got home I couldnt wait to hold her and spend every moment with her so it depends how you feel about raising your child.

Answer 9

Actually while I love being at home with my kids now, I think the most important time for me to be home with my kids is when they start jr/hs because that is the time when they go through the hardest stuff and truly need someone to be there for them.

Answer 10

I'm a stay at home mom-

I hope to go back full time when my daughter starts school. She's 3 now. I'd like a part time job now though.

Answer 11

Whenever the mother feels like she is being stifled. If she feels like she needs to work in order for her life to have more purpose, or if she just can't stand being at home anymore, then it's time to go back.