My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday and he owes me money and is going to write me a check. He said that he would mail it to me but I told him I would pick it up so that I could send it out sooner because if I waited for him to mail it to me and then I mailed out the payment to my credit card company it might be late. I was going to pick it up on Tuesday from his apt (I still have the key) but after thinking about it I don't even want to step foot in there because it will be too weird and it's too soon for me. I don't want to call him because if I haven't made it clear enough I don't want to have to communicate with him because it's painful so...do I text message him with a "Sorry, I changed my mind, mail me the check" or do I just not tell him and not pick up the check (It may be worth $180 not to have to face him or his apt ever again). But if I do that he will probably call me. I know this is a stupid question and I apologize but I want to avoid him as much as possible.
2006-10-08 17:23:44 · 29 answers · asked by sleep2dream65 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I can afford to pay the bill without his money. I just don't want to make excuses to be in contact with him, I just want to have a clean break and move on.
2006-10-08 17:24:42 · update #1
the best thing that you shjould do is to talk to him. There you can get the money and at the same time you can talk to him seriously about your relationship. If you want to break him, the do that in a good manner. Do your move. Act now. Good luck Have courage.
2006-10-08 17:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by psychedelic_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't bear to call him.. just text him what you said you would. Hopefully he will have stamps etc... to get it out to you in the mail asap so you won't be late with your credit cards. Can always call the credit card company though... and let them know the payment will be late. Some will waive the late charges if it's the first time youv'e asked for an extension.
Hope this helps... and give your heart time to heal. Breakups suck... but being in the wrong relationship takes away hope for something better ;)
2006-10-09 00:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by B L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a stupid question. You have gone through something horrible with your ex and everything is very confusing right now.
If you can afford to pay the bill, pay it and text him to mail you the money so that you will have it. Sounds like he really did something horrible and you need time to get over it, but get your money from him. Dont let him slide with that. Hope it all works out for you!
2006-10-09 00:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact him. If he attempts to contact you-do not call back, do not pick up the phone, do not answer text messages. Read the book "It's called a breakup because it's broken" (AMAZING BOOK). If you can afford to pay without him-then do so. He might send you a check even if you do not contact him/return his calls and if not oh well. Clean breakup, even if it hurts...do not make contact by any means and do not give reasons.
2006-10-09 00:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Erica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you should ask him to mail you the check, but I think you should do it politely. You can text him and say: ould it be too much trouble for you to mail me the check? I think I need a little time before seeing you again...I hope this is okay. That way, you get your point across, but you are not too hurtful. Breaking up is heard, no matter who did it. No use in adding insult to injury.
2006-10-09 00:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by calliope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Responsibility comes first here. He's responsible for the money owed to you, and you're responsible for your bills. If you cannot wait for him to mail it, either tell him or leave him a note on his car or door (I recommend leaving it to him- it's more mature and less likely to blow away) and do it ASAP. You don't need to go into anything else. "I can't wait for the check to be mailed; I need it by ______ time. Thank you. Good-bye." Then get on with your life.
2006-10-09 00:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by LOVE2LD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a sticky situation. you could try and have a friend go over and get the check for you, so you can send it to your credit card company sooner. texting is not all that bad of an idea, either. it does leave more than a hint of the impersonal, though.
2006-10-09 00:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are my suggestions:
1) Why don't you ask a mutral friend or your friend to pick it up for you? Make sure that mutral friend will not hit on him
2) Text: "Please meet me at ___ and have the check ready because I've a meeting/appointment to go to."
3) Just text him that you're not ready to talk to him, so maybe he can just drop off the check at your house when you're not there.
4) Go meet him somewhere to pick up the check. Have a few girlfriends with you so they can tell him the hurry up with the check, because you girls are going to the nail salon. (or something like that )
2006-10-09 00:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by bluecymbals04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go and pick up the check and while you're at it give the man back his key!!you're going to have to face him eventually so why not go ahead and get it over with. avoiding him will not erase his memory from your heart. you don't have to go in and have coffee..just stand at the door, knock, tell him what you came for, then leave. sounds like you need a friend to go with you for moral support. deep down i think you want to see him otherwise you would have just let him mail it to you.
2006-10-09 00:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no question about it - pass on the money. $180 won't seriously effect your life one way or the other. But making a clean break is critical.
Do not make contact again.
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2006-10-09 00:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋