Heres a twist: Why do some people look down on stay at home moms...?

Question

like me I am a stay at home mom to a 2 year old, I dont work outside the house, but in the house. I do everything that involves this house.
And I do almost everything that involves our son.
The thing is I have noticed others mothers, like my husbands friends wives (who have kid and work) treat me like Im either a gold digger, a moocher, or someone that watched tv all day...and we dont even have cable!
If someone ask "what do you do all day" they dont ask it in a friendly way either.
My husband makes great money and gets me everything I want and our son, but people think Im just a gold digger...which is so not the case.
But then when you ask a mom who works if she would love to be able to stay home woth her kids full time, they say they would love to.
What gives?

Answer 1

even if they are making millions of dollars by working outside of the home, it will never come close to the value of being there for your children, and not paying someone else to raise them. its worth the so-called "sacrifice"

im a stay at home AND working mom. i work at home, less than 10 hours a week, but its more than enough, and it means my husband doesnt have to miss out on as much of our daughters life. He gets to be with us until 3 in the afternoon every day, and the entire weekend, and i just make a few sales here and there on my down time. it works perfect for us, and I am SOOO grateful for the opportunity. those other moms dont know what they are missing.

Answer 2

Some people look down on stay at home moms because they don't get paid. They're also not paying taxes. Other people worry that a stay at home mom is missing out on a possible rewarding career outside the home. Some women get jealous that they have to work to pay some of the bills when they would rather stay home and take care of their kids. Some people are concerned that if something happens to the man so that he can't work there will be no income coming in.

Answer 3

1. Yep, it was at a restaurant. 2. No... i don't think i was alive. 3. I've seen one, but i don't know how to use it. 4. Wasn't alive.. 5. I've seen a picture... they're pretty big.. 6. Yes, i was allowed to play outside until it was dark. (: 7. Yep, there's lots of kids in my current neighborhood, even where I grew up there were a lot of friends within walking distance. 8. Yep, we were almost always outside. 9. I didn't know that... 10. We had an ice cream truck where i grew up, it was different than that though. 11. Yes, we had one of those.. i believe it was called mr. softee. We also had one that served popsicle type things. 12. I grew up in Michigan 13. No, I was an only child until I was 11, and my mom went to work. 14. We used to until my brother was born. 15. Yeah.. kindergarten was the best (: I went to a private school though, so we actually did learn a little bit there, but it didn't distract from fun time.

Answer 4

I love being at home with my kids and enjoying them. I'm not lazy either feel I work very hard at home and involve my self at the school whenever they need help. I'm still looked down upon by other mothers there, even though they only do part time at every possible opportunity they say but of course I work, what does that mean? while I can I'll stay home even if it means we don't have much money

Answer 5

The other moms are jealous. Hold your head high. I'm a SAHM also and I LOVE it! If someone were to ask me what I did all day I'd smile and say "I nurture my kid, it's the best job in the world!" Some moms have to work and feel guilty about it. Other moms don't have to, but they do anyway because they can't handle being home with their kids. Either way, let it roll off your back, and enjoy your son!

Answer 6

in our society everyone blames the mother. if you work, they blame you for not spending enough time with your kids. if you don't, they blame for being lazy. here's the deal. when someone asks me what my job is, i tell them i have a high stress, oncall 24 hour job. i am a full time mommy. all those working moms who look down on you have put thier jobs and thier needs above those of thier own children. all those working moms who are jealous, well, shouldn't they be? you get to do all the things they're missing. i've worked and stayed home. i love being home. i love being here to take care of my son and my daughter and husband. don't you? screw them. the only reason they are looking down on you is to make themselves feel better. fight the good fight and know that your kids will come out better in the end. oh and next time someone calls you a gold digger, ask them if they're jealous that they don't ahve that particular talent.

Answer 7

It's jealousy. I've stayed at home since my first son was born. I've got one of the old fashioned husbands who thinks it's the mans' job to "bring home the bacon", lol. He's always said I can work if I want to, but not to think I HAVE to. If we ever needed it, I would. But I had the kids, I want to be the one raising them. Not some babysitter. I think they're just jealous that they can't be home with their kids all the time. And the ones who act like we sit on our asses all day obviously either don't have kids or haven't spent near enough time with theirs if they do have them. It's gotten to the point that if some woman asks me "what do you do all day" in that bitchy voice, I look at her and reply "why, I sit on my *** eating ice cream and watching soap operas....what the hell do you think I do?" all the while having a 4 month old in a stroller and a 6 year old on my heels.

Just ignore them is what I say!

Answer 8

Some women are jealous that you get to stay at home and focus on your child. These other women have to work, do the house chores, and raise the kids. You should feel very blessed that you get this oppurtunity, and feel for those mothers that don't get this chance. Also, some women don't wan't to be "stay at home" moms. It's an age old debate that has no right or wrong answer.

Answer 9

I understand how you feel. I too stay home with my 2 year old daughter and 9 year old son. I worked when my son was a baby, and always felt like I was missing out. When my daughter was born, my husband and I decided to forgo certain thing so I could stay home. I went out with my BF one night with 3 of her female friends, 2 of which had kids, and both worked. They really couldn't understand how I don't go out of my mind being home all day with my kids. Then proceed to tell me how just on the evenings and weekends how wore out and tired they are of having to watch their kids constantly. I just thought that was sad. While yes, there are days I go stir crazy, for the most part I'm thrilled to be home. A lot of working moms are just jealous they can't stay home and feel like they have to put you down to make themselves not feel bad for working. I joined a national support group for stay home moms. It's called the Mom's Club. There's usally daily activities or play groups, as well as emotional support. It's makes you feel less alone sometimes. Your making the best decision for YOUR family, don't let anyone make you feel bad.

Answer 10

I have been a SAHM for almost 7 years and it is the hardest job that I have ever had. Don't let other working moms make you feel below them for choosing to stay home with your son. You are providing a strong foundation that he will appreciate later on as he grows up. As a SAHM, I have had the opportunity to volunteer in my children's classrooms and serve on their school PTAs, along with being available to them at a moment's notice. Feel proud of what you do, I guarantee you will never live with any regrets!